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So this past weekend we celebrated my wife's birthday at her parents house for a meal. When her parents host birthday meals generally the person having the birthday requests what he/she would like to eat. My wife (Amanda) decided to request her meal be all vegan food that is served even though she generally brings her own food to consume.


The meal was 100% vegan however, a discussion broke out among the family which Amanda and I did not participate in about killing chickens and other livestock (this has never happened before). Also to top it all off, her mother is allergic to a large variety of different foods and didn't bother to make anything for herself to eat. She decided to eat cereal infront of the rest of the family who all of a sudden felt sorry for her. So after she had everyones sympathy she states that she isn't allowed to eat any animal products during the meal and has no other food.


On the way home that evening Amanda asked me if she should have said something to her family about the subject matter that was discussed during her vegan birthday meal. I advised she should have and it was very disrespectful of them. If I had said anything it would not have went over well and I felt it was Amanda's place to initiate and I would defend her arguements. As for the way her mother acted during dinner, well that  was inexcusable and extremely selfish towards her own daughters' feelings. She should have made something ahead of time rather than causing a scene of which most children could not top. We both agreed we would say something next time and perhaps bring up our concerns over her birthday meal this past weeked with them in the near future.


I am glad I only see family every couple months most of the time.  =)


Flip your thinking,

Flip your diet, and

I'll catch you on the flip side!


Mike Rawsome Grant

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Comment by Drea on October 14, 2011 at 12:29pm

@ Calming Melody::::Accepting new concepts is not always easy for everyone, specially not for older people. If you want to see a change in her attitude you and your wife need to show her that your new lifestyle can be positive in many aspects, including making you a more understanding and less judgmental person. Lead by example, and also try to put yourself in her shoes.


---I have try to remember this.  Often when I'm preparing my meals, I want to instantly frown upon a fam member on anyone who is preparing something I USED to eat.   And then looking at me asking for A TASTE.  If I really want to help them, I do need to show the benefits of a more nutritious lifestyle...without pointing the finger.   That's stuff, esp when you know something works!  So I will try to be more humble and patient with folks as they need to transition without knowing it.  Somewhere in their body there is a reaching out!!!  SO thanks for this comment...I will work at this.

Comment by Drea on October 14, 2011 at 12:25pm
Flip your thinking,

Flip your diet, and

I'll catch you on the flip side!



~~~~~~`i like that!!   Can I pass this on????

Comment by Mike Rawsome Grant on October 12, 2011 at 7:22am

I understand where both of you are coming from, all I am saying is it isn't hard to make a dish for yourself with no animal products in it. Plus she agreed to setting up the vegan lunch as per my wifes suggestion. I think it should be common courtesy to not act negatively after you approved it. Thanks for your input though.

Comment by mangohead on October 12, 2011 at 4:48am

Hey Mike, I can totally relate to your story.

Food is huge to my mom. I mean, she has a room full of cookbooks, she writes gourmet food articles and basically identifies herself as a meal provider. Over the years my forays into low fat and vegetarian diets has been hard for her. I mean, the kitchen is her temple and she doesn't like it when I want to eat "something different". 

I have not yet told her about 811 and I'm going home for a funeral  (my high school buddy died of ALS recently) this weekend. Not a good time to rock the boat ! I've gotta be real but also compassionate.


What advice do I have? Maybe try to understand where mom is coming from. In my house growing up, fried chicken and biscuits=love. Imagine what happens when the kid would rather eat a bowl of fruit? I just shower my mom with as much love and support as I can...and explain that this diet keeps my mood up and I'm happy--this is working for me!! 


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