30 Bananas a Day!

And that is how quickly so many of the forum discussions here turn catty!  I've seen a person get ganged up on one too many times in discussions here- by adults!  By full grown adults.  It's very disheartening and I feel like it really goes against the whole philosophy of this site, which is raw, fruity, peaceful living!

Just once I would like to get through a discussion feeling supported and educated, not fearful that if someone disagrees with my input, I'm next.

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Comment by AJ on October 28, 2012 at 8:37am

I remember that thread!  That's a good, albeit extreme, example.  I haven't quite seen that level of animosity in a thread here since.  NVC all the time always except in situations of self-defense.  And like for the purpose of overthrowing oppressive systems.  I suppose it's necessary then, too ;)

Comment by AJ on October 28, 2012 at 1:29am

Absolutely!  That's why I love 30BaD so much, I do not know another forum where I have so much in common with everyone.  I guess that's why it's funny to me when I see someone freak out over a root vegetable or single clove of garlic.  But you're right, arguments are bound to arise in any group.  I just don't like them!  Who reasonably does?

Comment by Kati Sharp on October 27, 2012 at 2:29am
I can relate!
Comment by AJ on October 27, 2012 at 2:16am

Hey hey, thanks for the responses!  I wasn't talking about anything I'd experienced personally or had directed towards me, I've managed to avoid the drama.  I just find myself reading through discussions often where two people disagree, and it quickly becomes a vicious back and forth, often with others getting involved.  I've seen a lot of members be very curt and dismissive, even provocative in their tone.  I definitely love this site and agree that there is far more good than bad, but it's something I'd noticed enough that I wanted to comment on it.

Comment by PK on October 23, 2012 at 9:52am

Hello AJ, 

I hope by the time you read this that you are feeling better.  If something has gone wrong somewhere and we missed it, you can PM me or another PK and we can see what is up.  


One thing that has helped me in the forum is to focus on topics that I am very knowledgeable about and that way I know where to find references for things if needed and or can argue my way around the topic.  

There are a few topics that I would love to discuss more with people so that I can learn myself, but some topics are too PC incorrect or too hot to handle and those with less emotional IQs or an axe to grind about the topic (or about me) will make that difficult.  I have kind of learned my 30BaD boundaries and save those sensitive topics for my flesh and blood trusted friends;-D

Peace, PK


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