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Friends who don't share the same values with you will drag you.

Sup guys. I just wanted to say that it's difficult to have friends who does not have the same values or same views as you. I came to the realization that I couldn't hang out with my closest friends anymore when you are viewed as not one of them or something like that. When you don't want to drink or smoke anymore but you do because it's part of our 'thing' and that's what we always do when we meet up. It's very very hard to have those people in your life.

Also it doesn't help when they tease and make fun of your lifestyle 24/7. It doesn't help when they really demonize it when I have said nothing or done nothing towards them. I haven't even told them that eating meat is wrong. 

But I get it. You can't hang around with turkeys when you want to soar like an eagle. You really can't. Because you will become really spiteful, resentful and angry every time you meet these people in your life. 

I still hang around with them because we've  all had our history with each other. We've been friends for 4 plus years and Durianrider was right. People do change. And when that change happens it's up to us or it's them. 

So, people in the forum going through the same thing. I relate. I understand. I know how it feels like to have people in your life who are very very unsupportive. I know first hand how powerful a group mindset is. I know first hand that it's difficult to get past the social rejection. 

I think people don't talk this a lot because they don't want to be seen as a loser. Or they have the mindset that it's us or them. But I think for people who believed that they truly helped us in the past, that they truly cared about us in the past. And then one day you wake up and say "We don't have anything that we connect on nowadays". That's hard.

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Comment by King corn on October 11, 2016 at 3:35pm

That is so true, it seems these days we like to pretend to ourselves that we can still hang around old friends but to be honest, once you change something as dramatic as not drinking or not doing drugs a lot of the time you will find the time you spend with these people is physically and mentally draining :(

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