Banana therapy????? Day 9. Control vs manipulation
When does control become manipulation?
A friend commented that it must be exhausting to try and have control of everything in your life and in short yes it definitely can be, but only at first.
Soon enough like physical activity, after the pain of the 1st mile is gone you will have the strength to tackle the 2nd mile powered also by the momentum of the 1st.
My friend brought to rise some of my personal “control freak” behaviours, not directly but with my own further thought. I have many ways/behaviours that are in need of review, the main one of these that causes the most destruction is my ability to subtly manipulate people to get what I want.
I would like to say that in the last year or so that I haven’t done this but that would most definitely be a lie, I could say I’ve caused less harm with it over the last year or so but that would also be a cop out into a world of justifications that would only continue the action.
I have many dreams to achieve personally and in my daily actions the sincerity of some of these dreams come to question. I have come to terms with the fact that we live in a FUCKED UP world, however I do not think that just because I am at peace with it means it is acceptable.
The world was created in this way because we were all invalidated and manipulated in some way by a man/men/women trying to control his/her dream.
So, does this mean that maintaining a dream and vision to create will invalid and manipulate everybody???
In short it depends what you rely on to feed your dream.
Does it require people to be manipulated in the first place ie, taught to read, write, think and spell?
Can your dream live without the shackles of read and write alphabet languages or without any destruction?
If it can live without these things than in the long run your efforts will help to free us all from this VERY fucked up place and these are images/dreams that need our attention.
Being at piece with our current situation is key to moving on to a place of freedom and happiness for all.
Is there any way to create with people that are under the influence of the manipulations we all were taught from birth or should you just run off and hide in a soon to be destroyed rainforest until the tractor is at your door step?
I say this, If can give you an image and explain to you the risk’s associated and you are happy to invest into that image than I have done no wrong (we were not given this choice as children of an explanation of what may happen if we choose to think the way we were being taught).
Am I using tools that are manipulative (ie, written language)? yes!
Will you, while you continue to think with these tools be under my/other influence/s? Yes!
Can I avoid participating and using this tools? Yes!
Does using these tools with the vision to free us from these tools have any merit?
I say yes it does, It is certainly not the quickest way and there may be more risk associated with the method but lets face it, If all of us decided to drop our addictions to the system a lot of us would not make it through the other side!
To create a better place for us all I now use the gold fish technique, If you put a gold fish from a bag of water straight into a tank of water, it is highly likely it will die of shock. If you put the bag of water into the tank, the warmth of the environments will soon match and the goldfish will move into a new place free and able.
Of course I don’t want to move from a small confined space to a larger confined space and stay there I want to expand beyond a confined space completely.
I have ranted ridiculously and may have gotten off topic, I really must go as the shackles of time are a causing other areas of my life to suffer J
Much love and respect