I change my answer.
I'm having babies with durian.
little john durian 1 and little freddy durian 2.
My mother asked me this.
I'm unsure of where I stand at this point in regards to this manner.
I will get back to you in a few months after I've given birth to the little beauties.
& if durian doesn't go on sale by then, well we all know what will happen.
I read about parenting every day. I imagine being pregnant, giving birth unassisted, breastfeeding my child as long as they would like, co-sleeping, teaching them. Biologically, I want children badly. Logically, I can't foresee myself ever doing it.
I used to dislike children, never hate but mostly ignored or got annoyed by them. Now I get sad when babies cry, I like children more than most adults and try to reconcile myself with the actions of adults by thinking of them as just big children. That is, when is the point that they stop being babies deserving of love and are now mean adults? Since I can't say when that happened, maybe it never did. That was sort of a weird tangent... I'm just trying to say, I like kids a lot.
Even though I have this huge urge to reproduce, I can't currently justify bringing someone into this world even if they would be loved. As has been mentioned, there are too many people that are unwanted and it has too big of an effect on the Earth as a whole. There are people who choose not to have children for ecological reasons (http://www.vhemt.org/). There are also people who choose not to have children for personal ethical reasons, such as Discontinuists. http://scratchpad.wikia.com/wiki/Discontinuation As an atheist who was probably only born because of my mother's religious beliefs (Mormonism-- I was the 6th child) I can relate to that theory well.
I may someday adopt, but I'm not sure I'll ever be in a place that I can support children in so many ways. So while it is painful, I doubt I will ever be a mother.
This is on the VHEMT website:
"Considering the future world we are creating for future generations, procreation today is like renting rooms in a burning building—renting them to our children no less.
Choosing to refrain from producing another person demonstrates a profound love for all life."