my daughter is 4,5 years and i gave her never animal food, she has a SAD-father
he told me today he is sick he can not share his food (animal food, grain coffee, sugar, chocolate, ...) with her (he already gives her bread, candy, cookies, chocolate and when they are with family he gives her cake with eggs-butter-sugar etc).
he told me to become softer, not so extreme.
in the begin my wish was to give her only raw food, that was not possible for him so i found a way between: vegan
but that is not enough for him, he wants that she can eat whatever there is on the table if we go to the family, friends, ... and now also in our house
when we go for a visit i always take a bunch of fruits and also vegan cookies, veganaise etc
but he is tired i do like this.
i can not take her away from him because he also likes to take care of the girl.
asked him several times to read 'notmilk.com' but he says it is all in the mind.
it is so crazy!! if we will split, he will have her 1 week and then i will have the girl 1 week. when she will be with him she will have all of it: animal food, sugar, chocolate, bread, ... and almost no fruit (he almost never eats fruit).
i know a lot of you will say stupid to make a child with that man ... she was not planned
i love the girl very much and she is a beautiful present
he is 57 and he has never been sick in his life and has eaten all what he wanted whole his life. he has smoked for 40 years, drunk coffee all his life, almost never ate fruit, eat french fries every week, a lot of meat and cheese, sugar, bread, chocolate, ...
and he says that the little girl has his genes so she also can eat whatever she wants, that is her birthright! she has a free will. he calls me a dictator because i don't like that anybody gives her animal food nor sugar nor chocolate.
he can eat whatever he wants but he can not share his pork, spareribs with my daughter,
am i so a cruel mother than?
7 years ago he has had a very serious accident with a gas explosion, has been 5 months in the hospital (which 3 on extensive care) and got a lot of surgery (13) with skintransplantations (70% third-degree burnings over whole his body=a lot!). all that time he has had a lot of medicines, his body has never been detoxified from all that stuff (morphines, other pain killers, anaesthesia, ...)
sometimes i think please detox your body, you will feel so much better. his body is in pain, his joints hurts, his skin is itchy all the time and flakes.
so a good idea is to heal himself. to take care of his body.
he will feel so much better and his temper will be so much softer and nicer.
now he is depressive because he can not give his daughter all that stuff, it is only important that it is good to taste. if it is an animal? pfff. you also kill your food. end of discussion.
what can i do? i really don't know!!
Keep trying your best, keep your daughter full of the healthy stuff, keep your own health high. Your daughter will mostly follow your example and it is true that the more whole foods you eat the more your body will crave them, so keep giving her the whole fresh ripe fruits and tender leafy greens and she will want more and just not be attracted to the other stuff. Mothers are fierce when it comes to our kids and that is a good thing! Keep her informed about her food too as much as you can.
This is a pretty good video below for kids to learn but it may be too much for some youngsters, I told my kids from an early age the truth about animal products just like kids that grow up on farms who eat their animals.
thank you for your words and for sharing this video