While I've respect for many people regardless of their dietary inclinations, the idea of dating a non-vegan... seems a bit repulsive, however perhaps this is limiting myself of aspects that can be gained otherwise from a relationship with someone. Frankly not a lot of vegans out there. :/
Met this wonderful person who went on/off with phases of being vegetarian. Am in quite the dilemma in regards to backing off the start of the relationship, and perhaps defining boundaries for future scenarios. Perhaps even regretful.
On the other hand, you can easily say, well - what if they change with your influence? Curious to hear ya'll opinions.
It can be a tough one at times but if you were to write a list of what you truly desire in a partner would "vegan" be high on that list? If the answer is yes then I recommend sticking with that standard and becoming a magnet for that person you truly want. Write that list! Good link in the meantime ;)
Thanks Freelee. That's a good thought; looks like priorities are high to be with a vegan. However, this'll probably need a bit of thought before hastily moving forth. The factor of "changing" them with influence doesn't seem a good one to pursue. I don't like telling people what to do, and vice a versa. Been single for that reason of compromise for a while. Will check out that group there. I appreciate your advice. :)
I think it's rather insignificant whether someone is vegan or not early in a relationship. Most people are just unaware of why someone would be vegan and they will adapt a vegan lifestyle after being with someone who is vegan for long enough. By starting a relationship with someone non-vegan you're committing to nothing. I feel like people need to stop obsessing over finding a perfect soul mate and just accept relationships as just a temporary thing. People change. This is where you are now so live in the moment. If you find someone and there is mutual attraction and your personalities are compatible you have the means to start a relationship. Anything else is irrelevant. Obviously your criteria will be raised once you're considering marriage or other big steps furthering a relationship. It seems to me that vegans who will only date other vegans end up in relationships where the only thing holding them together is the similarity in diet. There's so much more to life than this lifestyle. If you mesh with someone on 9/10 things, and that one thing you don't mesh on is veganism, then that's a sad reason to pass up on what would be a great relationship.
Minda, it's great you've raised these issues. I couldn't agree more that these are detrimental for all our existence, and of our animal companions. There is a point though, where you realize a sharp distinction between ignorance and apathy. Ignorance simply being at a certain stage of life in which the environment has predisposed you to know certain things, and act in a certain way. Apathy being on how you see new environments and knowledge come your way. I've met far more people on the ignorant side, but not on the apathetic side, fortunately (when it's apathy, it's often both). When you express a message in a way that resonates with people, regardless of where they are in their journey, I think change can be a lot more impactful.
Dominic, I can see that. Thank you for the thoughtful response. I've been one to get into a lot of relationships for the sake of "fixing" the other person - not in a bad sense of the word (more of a person having problems they wish to resolve), becoming someone's counselor made a mutual attraction of more of a one-sided relationship. Hence I'm wary of committing to a relationship to commit to turn them vegan. But as you mention, it may happen just naturally.
I agree that people are beyond their dietary preferences, and that if the mutual basis was veganism and none only, then there would be problems. I'm focusing on issues that have little to nothing (in a direct way) to do with my diet and lifestyle. Will think a little about the ramifications of all of this. I'm definitely one to only care for long-term relationships. Short term flings are not fun.
I love your perspective, Svein. There is only one way to find out! C'est la vie.
Will have to contemplate this for a little while, on how open-minded they are. An image someone gives early down the road is not always the indicator for the far future. I think seeing one's true colors takes a lot of practice and experience, that a early 20s guy like me needs to still get the hang of.
You give a wonderful reminder to meditate and focus on development. Will absolutely do.
Awesome Eli. Yeah, contemplate and feel into it, that is really smart! Then you are listening to your life :) Then you are safe.
You actually already know, and by doing this, you can connect with what you already have figured out. Our subconscious notices everything instantly, always.
What makes me make mistakes, every time I make them, is unconscious fear attached to the situation I fai in. So when I contemplate, meditate, on those areas, I suddenly become aware of those fears and pains, and then I gain the insights that I need - to know exactly what I need to do, with certainty and clarity.
I give myself all the time I need to reach that point of clarity, before I make decisions now. And I think that is exciting. But I had to learn to appreciate the need for that, the hard and slow way. Haha.