p.s. I'm not judging parents who abort children as im sure its not easy to make that decision.
Withdrawal only works when their is no residue sperm in the penis. If a couple has sex twice in an hour the percentage chance of preg. is 20% unless the male pees a few times. This clears the sperm from the initial ejaculation. If the couple has sex without this clearing, the sperm can be picked up in the pre-cum. The pre-cum is from an entirely different gland and contains no sperm.
The chances of perforation (happens at time of insertion) is 1 in 1000. That's the same risk of having a child with Down Syndrome if you conceive between the ages of 30 and 35. No one's telling women that age not to have babies. It's not a risk I would place too much importance on, especially compared to the advantages.
I would stay away from birth control pills. I see many ads on TV for women who suffered serious life threatening side effects from taking them. Some women have mild side effects but the long term effects are unknown. I worked with a woman who was a smoker and when she hit a certain age, I want to say, 35-39, they refused to prescribe them. The adverse health risks were too high. I also watched a study that showed that women who use birth control like the pill, are attracted to the same chemical make-up in men. So it's basically throwing you off balance and it is similar to inbreeding. I was on the pill for a few years and never again. Too toxic.
They made me seriously depressed and after I stopped taking them (I tried different ones) the depression didn't go away so quickly because they seriously mess with your hormones :/ They also made me feel sick each day and I kept panicking about forgetting to take them or leaving them home when travelling... so annoying!
I have a copper chain (not a spiral) now, which is softer and doesn't cause too many problems, though periods are longer and a little more painful now. It's as safe as the pill, though, so I still prefer it over Natural Family Planning right now, and a hundred times over the pill. It's called GyneFix and is an improvement to the normal copper IUD because it's saver & hurts less, but I don't know if it's available in every country (especially outside europe).
Btw, random fact: The excessive hormones in the pill get eliminated and pollute our sewage, which is actually why some fishes suffer from "feminization" or so.
http://blog.sfgate.com/chrongreen/2008/10/23/are-your-birth-control... Sounds scary... :D
I was on the pill for about 10 years. Had no problems getting my cycle on it. I went of of it and I could not get my cycle to be regular. That was about 7 years ago and it is still irregular, which is part of why I am trying 811. When I tried to get pregnant I couldn't and ended up doing fertility treatments for both of my sons. I'm not sure if the pill played a part in all of this, but I suspect it did.
being in the pill was the most depressing episode of my life. i'm a super optimistic/happy person but when i went on the pill it totally transformed me. and i was only on it for a month. i cried everyday that month and for the next 3 months after because it fucked with my hormones. i know every pill isn't a match for everyone, and my doctor recommended that i try a different one, but it's been about a year since then and i'm afraid a different brand might have the same effect, and it's soo not worth it. so now i rely on condoms, and the occasional morning after pill.