I've been around the LFRV diet/lifestyle for 2,5 years. That is a very short period of time. Still I've seen lots of people come to it, give it a try, and back off; something didn't work, didn't fit, didn't meet their expectations.
I can't speak for all of them, but I can speak for myself, and at least some of them.
What the 80/10/10, or low fat raw vegan diet does, is it takes your hiding places away. Rips you bare. You've got to face who you are, and guess what - not everyone likes it. If you smoke, you can throw up a veil that hides you; if you drink alcohol, you can run away to another world, one where you'll never need to see yourself in the face. If you take drugs, you can just lift off and be on a different planet. Far from yourself. If you eat junk, you can stuff your body so full of toxins it'll take all your focus away from yourself.
No need to know who you really are.
Imagine letting go of all of that. Go to a street and strip naked. Let everyone see. Look yourself in a mirror. Like what you see? The chances are you won't. And most won't even go that far, they'll back off faster than you can say 30 bananas a day.
Even if you were born the most beautiful being that ever breathed the air of this world, the most perfect being to set eyes on its blue sky, with the serenest smile on your face, you probably were quickly taught and conditioned to hate, fear, hide from yourself. Where you were looking for warm and welcoming arms and fresh mother's milk, a hard plastic bottle with cow milk or grain-derived substitutes was thrust into your mouth. The heart that longed for love for the sake of love, regardless of what you did or didn't do, was taught to do this and don't do that to get a bit of approval. Do the right things and they'll approve of you. Some were never approved of, regardless of what we did/didn't do. Some were spanked for not being the way they wanted you to be, or just because; others simply ignored. Either way, you quickly learned it was all your fault and you'd better hide all that pain somewhere deep quick, otherwise life would stink.
Then you grew up and forgot about it, or most of us maybe did. Some maybe didn't. They taught you to surround yourself with cloaks, smoke and alcohol, fat and fries, chocolate and chips, all sorts of things so you'd never need to take another look at yourself. They maybe taught you that if you look the way that guy or gal does, your external appearance could be approved of. But just skin deep. Whatever you had under your skin was better hidden away, deep under, in some subconscious place that maybe sometimes haunted your dreams but seldom saw the light of your consciousness.
Some of us learned to live just fine regardless; we ran and jumped, we fought and competed, and were busy enough never to need to pay any attention. Then we heard of this LFRV thing, and decided to give it a go. Hey, fruits are tasty and all that. Or maybe we'd hit the wall and were looking for an escape. Something wasn't working, and we wanted a fix.
For some it was smooth going, better performance, happy sailing. Others hit a bumpy road. Whatever your previous diet, it lent you something LFRV would not, and could not: a place to hide. Whatever negative lifestyle choices you had, there was always a place to hide them. Maybe it was a Mickie D meal, or a chocolate bar, or a ham sandwich, or a nut burger, or some superfood concoction that kept you safely tucked away, within an acceptable distance from yourself.
Now you had nowhere to hide. Nowhere to go from yourself.
Some of us didn't realise what was happening, it just didn't feel good. LFRV didn't work, it didn't "do the trick". It was stripping away our defences, and we didn't like that. There's got to be somewhere to hide, someplace where magic mushrooms can make us fly high above that scary past.
Some of us had crappy relationships. Jobs we hated. A boss we feared. Parents who wouldn't let go. Just some gut feeling that told us to keep our heads low, and not grow too much. Who knows what Gandhi you might turn into, and who wants to be murdered for some weird idealism?
At some point, it became a choice. Either you walk on and face the pain, face the crappy relationships, face the job you hate, face the pain you carry, do whatever it takes to let go and live life to the best of your abilities, regardless of what they say.
Or you back off, too afraid to let go, too afraid to explore, too scared to find out. Find out who we are, what we are made of and what we are here for. A few go back and forth. Longing to let go, but strapping themselves onto the past, wanting to have the cake and eat it. Afraid. Scared. Or maybe just deficient of something? Maybe just ungrounded? Maybe this diet just doesn't work for me? Surely that has to be it. B12 deficient. Sugar rush. In need of more grounding foods. Too 'airy', levitating. Fat deficient. Whatever deficient, as long as it gives you a place to hide.
For who wants to see himself in the soul, find out who you really are?
Who wants to strip bare? Who wants to burn away whatever isn't really you?
Everyone needs to read this.
I started this diet for health and never expected the questions, but they came fast and furious, and I think they are here to stay for a while:)
Your mind is so beautiful, Jack, everytime you post something I'm so happy you want to share it. The things you say are so true, brings me to really think deeply about myself and the world.
And I love it, no matter how scary it might be, I want the insights and development.
The hardest bit is letting go of the part of me that is brought up to match and fit in to society's norm, what do I do because I really want to, and what do I do because it's expected of me? It's hard to keep them separated.
Yes, fantastic. <3
Fantastic! Thank you! I completely agree.
Truly beautiful post, thanks so much for sharing it!
It IS scary! But when you can get to that point and move past it, it is SO liberating!
"... and the truth shall set you free"
This is the best post I've read in a long time Jack!
It wasn't long after becoming a raw vegan that I stopped going to family reunions and stopped "hanging out" with friends and I told everyone that for now on if they want to spend time with me they have to do it at my place where there is no TV, alcohol, or unhealthy foods around and they will have no choice but to actually talk and spend time with me without any of those kinds of distractions.
It used to REALLY bother me when I would take time off from work, sacrafice sleep, and travel a long distance to see my family and within 10 minutes of getting there someone would say, "Hey, why don't we all go see a movie!" or "Hey, there's a football game on lets turn it on." or "Hey, I brought the first season of "Family Guy" on DVD with me, lets watch it!" God, can't people who love each other and who haven't even seen each other in a really long time even look at each other and talk? Do they really prefer to look at a TV screen and pay it more attention than all of the loved ones in the room? That's not my idea of a "family reunion".
I have the same experience.. people just can't spend time together without the presence of technology anymore. Phones, Ipads, laptops, tv, games.. I'm sick of it, I don't get anything out of that.
Family and friends around a campfire with good food and drinks, and someone playing an instrument, that's quality time! We don't even have to talk, just sit around and enjoy.