Hi everybody! This is a post that I feel like might be getting some hate or whatever, so here's a little story before we begin!
I went raw till 4 on the 22nd of April this year, and so far I have cured my beginning diseases and ailments and I feel fantastic! I've lost 17,5 kgs, from 114,1 kg to 96,6 kg. In terms of weight loss, I really couldn't care how fast or whatever it goes because it doesn't matter! I have been very fat all my life, and I don't expect that to magically change overnight.
HOWEVER, that being said. In about two months time, I will meet for the first time my boyfriend, because we live in different countries. I'd like to do everything in my power to just OOMPH up my diet and exercise routine to hopefully accelerate (just a bit) my progress for these next two months.
So - here's what I plan on doing.
1) Going to the gym, lifting weights in order to tone up arm, stomach and leg muscles. (I already bike ride about 10 km. a day as a form of transportation.)
and 2) This is were I'd like some advice. I eat raw till 4, healthy, happy, plentiful! I was thinking, in order to prep for this upcoming event that I'd do a couple of days a week fully raw? Like 3 times a week maybe? This is purely to help weight loss, and I know that having that focus is very bad and narrow-minded, but I trust that you see this is not what I aim for in general! So do you guys have any tips and tricks in order to loose weight just a smidgen faster in terms of which foods you choose to eat?
Let me tell you something that will hopefully ease your mind a bit...
TO A MAN THAT IS MATURE, INTELLIGENT, HEALTH MINDED, AND WORTHWHILE, THE DIRECTION YOU ARE HEADING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN WHERE YOU ARE AT THIS EXACT MOMENT.
Having healthy, consistent habits, and doing it for the right reasons, HEALTH, VIBRANCE and LONGEVITY, instead of just trying to crash diet (and look skinny short term but look disgusting and be low vibration long term), is more sexy to a man. Yes, a man that is worthwhile can tell the difference.
Thank you so much for your reply! It actually soothed me alot, I guess I hadn't really considered that!
It is easy to meet women. They are everywhere. It is easy to meet good looking women. They are everywhere as well.
What is difficult, is to meet quality women, who take care of themselves mentally, spiritually, and physically. I am much more attracted to a woman who is putting in the work to grow into a better person everyday, than a woman who looks like a victoria secret model, but has no DEPTH, and zero long term potential. This is 10X more important to me than what dress size you wear.
Not all guys think like this, but the man who will treat you right and build something with you, will understand this.
My advice, from a guy's perspective, is not to worry about crash dieting, or starving yourself...I mean I wouldn't want you to do that to yourself. Instead I would focus on finding out what his core values are, and whether or not he is a quality human being.
If you ever find yourself dealing with a man who acts like a boy...has no plans, plays Too Much video games, avoids responsibility, doesn't look after his family, is unreliable or unpredictable...RUN!
Regarding fitness...are your goals to look toned and slim like Freelee or more like a body builder?
I concur with BSMurica;-D here.
Just keep being yourself. If you are meant to be together, it will work out. If he cannot accept you as you are now, then he might not be a keeper.
You do not want to do things that will make you sick or injure yourself for another man/person. They probably will not take care of you or pay your medical bills.
And, if you did get lucky by chance and got the magical improvements you are looking for, how long could you keep it up? It is like putting a mask on over your true self. Eventually you will grow tired of wearing the mask and the relationship may still fail down the road.
Having said that, congratulations on the progress you have already made, and remember slow and steady wins the race. Losing weight slowly will reduce chances of saggy skin and or loss of health.
Training is good, but do not overtrain as this can lead to injury and other illness.
Do not let a man or a diet or habits become obsessive to the point of ED living.
As far as toning goes, walking, dancing and or belly dancing, yoga, and or martial arts might be better choices. Remember lifting weights will add muscle weight to your body and or just puff out the fat more with a layer of muscle and fat. Nothing wrong with that and this is the goal of some people. In fact body building with muscle may help with skin sag issues too.
However, I often tell people to choose what they want...to be toned and slim or bulky and body built and then choose exercises for that purpose.
In conclusion, for long term health and success, this is a list of things I share to help individuals help themselves...
Good luck in life and in your relationship.
Thank you both very much for your advice. I just want to put out there that my boyfriend hasn't expressed any wish for me to be slimmer, but this is something I want to do for myself (and in turn him) to feel more confident about how I look and feel. None the less, you guys' words are fantastic and I truly take them to heart!
In terms of exercise, I don't want to look like a body builder, but I would like to be toned and I figured since I have alot of fat still covering my body that building some muscle underneath with help it to looks nicer when the fat slowly comes off, and of course if the muscle is trained and therefore bigger it will show sooner.
LOVE Banana's replies and PK's! :)
Just to add to what they said...a balanced weight comes with health, so the same things that give you the quickest way to health are what PK listed (go over them each with a fine tooth comb!), and even more fine tuned is to stick with mono meals and/or to do an island for a few weeks.