Here is a little about me. I am 29 and I have been struggling with issues about my body and food since I was 8, some time periods were worse than others. I am in recovery, but it's still a struggle because of recent events/stressors that have happened in my life. I am still fighting, which is why I am here.
How do you guys deal with the bloating at first? Or the weight gain?
I am terrified about it to be honest. I am already 180 pounds at 5'5" so I am far from my ideal weight. My fear is that I am going to gain to over 200 pounds and I cannot deal with that. I understand if I stick with this lifestyle long enough it will balance out and I will lose to an ideal weight, but I am so afraid of just gaining and gaining. I understand it's irrational, but I just need tools to cope.
Is there a different way I should go about it? Do I have to eat 2500 calories? How much should I exercise? Any advice or support would be greatly appreciated.
Oh, I remember how extremely hard it was at first, insanely hard. I cried a lot, I journaled a lot, wrote down all my feelings and tried to get to the root of them. I was battling every day with my minset and wanted to change it. The only thing I knew for sure that there was no way back, I knew that any other lifestyle is unsustainable and I just have nothing else to do but be consistent and give it time.
The first 4 months were the hardest. I had a peak of extreme hunger. All I did was eating. Tons and tons of food. Constant hunger on this lifestyle lasted for 10 months (I am almost a year in). I was constantly bloated, hungry and upset. I gained 10 kilos.
After 4 months my bloating started to reduce, life became a bit easier, but I was still puffy and didn't fit into my clothes. The amount of food I ate started to reduce bit by bit from from tons of food to just a lot of food.
I have always been following one principle: eat till the food is appealing to you, either to your mind or body. If you want to eat- eat, if you don't - don't. I couldn't fully understand in the beginning how people told others to eat till satisfied, I was never satisfied. I could stuff myself till I couldn't move, but the feeling of abundance was really liberating.
When I started, I knew that I would gain weight, I didn't know how much or when it will stop or when I will lose. I just didn't want to go back to misery.
Good news are the following:
- extreme hunger stopped. It happened suddenly, as if something clicked, I'm not so hungry anymore, I understand now what it feels like to be satisfied after meal.
- bloating almost never occurs anymore
- I've lost more than 5 kilos ( can't be more precise because haven't weighted myself)
- my mindset completely changed! The most important thing. I started to live my life, I stepped out of body obsession into a whole different place.
A lot of mental work was done, if you norish your body and take care of your mind, then you will be rawarded with a different mindset. You need to gaind a momentum, to set an intention for change. At one point I told myself "just be it! if i'm going to be fat, so be it, I give up because I can't sacrifice my life to aesthetics obsession". I made a commitment to let my body lead me and to let my lifestyle transform my body, not my body image dictate the way for me to live.
There are ton's of books on spiritual evolution, I am into esoterics a lot so it helped enormously. All in all, stalk your behaviour pattern, look for repetitive thoughts and try to identify the root of them. Usually there is some pain underneath that leads to suffering.
Get carbed up, move around and use that energy like crazy, repeat! :)
You don't have to eat 2500 calories a day, you can use it as a benchmark though. If you constantly feel boated and groggy with stomach aches, cut it back a bit. But you cannot restrict your calories, you will not succeed long term. If you feel hunger, eat. If you're having cravings, low energy, trouble sleeping, or low sex drive, you're not eating enough. Who knows, you may need 3000 calories, you'll start to get a feel for how much you need each day.
Focus on whole plant foods and fun exercise for optimal results. I think the more you exercise the more you'll feel comfortable with yourself too. You can minimize or eliminate the initial weight gain by completely removing oils from your diet, focusing on whole plant foods, and exercising. Eat as much as you care for and try to get in at least 30 minutes of exercise a day. Consistency is key, but don't beat yourself up for the 1% if you're doing everything well 99% of the time. Hope that helps!
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Good luck and Peace, PK