I'm from the Netherlands and kind of new to this lifestyle. Because I am trying to find a diet that won't trigger my IBS (the doctor says it is, we can't find the cause of my digestion problems), luckily my parents try to support me in trying and are very open minded what I really appreciate. Only right now I'm visiting my grandparents and the rest of my familly.
They have been trying to make me eat cheese, put butter on all of my food and sneak in cheese in the soups and other food.
I'm not sure how to cope with this. I want to be able to visit my family but this is causing me for some reason a lot of anxiety. It is not just the butter and cheese, but also the idea that they don't have any respect for me and my decisions at all, even if they are doing this out of concern.
I'd really appreciate it if someone knew way to solve this. Thank you very much.
I understand you, because my family is the same. They don't respect me and even they crtism me. It's awful thing that family members aren't supportive. You're so lucky because your parents respect you. I've started avoid meetings with my family. I only meet them in special ocassions. I realised that they're more supportive when i averted from them. Do what makes you happy no matter what. Don't worry about other's opinions. I know it's hard but it's worth it.
Lots of love,
P.S We have the same name ;)
Thank you very much!
Thank you for your reply :) Not eating dairy in the Netherlands is indeed seen as very abnormal especially because it is such a staple food here.
I used to have terrible IBS and cured it on a high carb vegan diet. Just let your family know you are serious about this and dive in because the sooner you get on track the sooner you will heal your digestion. It took my family a while to accept my choices too but once they get used to it it won't be a problem. Just focus on whole high carb foods and you'll go from eating to eliminating in 12 hours in no time.
I find older members of the family more close minded to new ideas, especially new eating habits. Some don't even want to hear it and try to slip an animal product in...From their perspective they think they are doing something good for you. I understand your frustration! Since there is a high probability you will not likely convince your grandparents to not serve you meat and cheese, you should take a different approach. Why not tell them your doctor recommended a diet without any animal protein to improve digestion issues? After all, milk (cheese), eggs are at the top of food allergen list.
You can even try to make them a "part of the team" to help you make sure there is no animal protein added to your meals. How? Next time you talk to them on the phone tell them that your digestion issue is getting better since your doctor's visit. It would go a little something like this - "So I have this digestion issue, makes me feel sick and I get abdominal pain and cramping...Can I count on you, to make sure i don't eat any animal protein so I can continue to feel better and not get sick?
Make sure you let them know what you can eat and ingredients such as butter etc are off your menu. It's probably best to introduce the cooked carbs at the beginning; oatmeal for breakfast and rice, pasta, potatoes for dinner. Once they're all used to you eating like this start easing in more fruit. So don't you go and shock them with 10 bananas for breakfast the next day :)
Hope this helps!