Now I'm finding my self in a very conflicted point in my life. I'm about to turn 20 so I decided to finally "leave the nest", but I don't think I'm ready yet. I want to grow and explore, but leaving behind family and friends is making me think otherwise. I've lived nearly 20 years in my Wisconsin home and is uprooting that worth it? I got a job lined up in Northstar so I can follow my elite snowboard goals and everything but I can't shake the sense of impending calamity. So what about those of us who have taken that big step on life, how did you deal with the sadness, holidays spent alone, and other issues?
Life is change! Embrace it. You'll never know what possibilities are out there if you never risk anything.
In the meantime, it sounds like you're coming from a very supportive home environment, which I think helps make it easier to strike out on your own. You'll always have your home base, and you can always return. Life is reached by over-reaching. Good luck!
"It's been said that the brave do not live forever, but the cautious do not live at all" you'd thing being a hardcore snowboarder I'd realize that. I think it's the sketchiness of this plan to make it big and to do something so far fetched that create second thoughts, but that's half the fun.
I think it's healthy to take a risk every once in awhile. It gives life purpose. And you're 20! You're supposed to push boundaries.
Greg that was a wonderful poem about "taking the road less traveled". I too come from a military family and remember long nights talking with my dad over the phone while he was gone for days and sometimes weeks. I should try to think more about all the great things that will come out of this journey vs. that 1 or 5% chance something bad happens.
I think my biggest fear is it not happening for me, I'm not made of money and pro coaching is hilarisouly expensive, I keeping feeling that a guy like me could never make it like everyone else. Maybe it's paranoia or low self esteem talking.
Last year I tried to move, but it was more of psychological escape. I did it out of pure anger and hate for my family because we were all going through a very difficult time, luckily I stopped at the airport (O' hare terminal 1, gate B3 non-stop to AK) and came back home. This time the variables have changed and I'm doing it out of my love for adventure.
I just hope that by doing it for love of something I will be successful.
sounds like you like where you are at id suggest some travel without moving to get your feet wet 2weeks -1 year and paying attention to your feelings will lead you where you need to go it could be far away or it could be right where you are today it depends on whats going on inside you in the true form of feelings
all the best you are asking great questions : )
Why not take a semester abroad or a summer educational travel, a working vacation at a resort for the summer, something temporary so it won't be such a permanent feeling move.
I'd like to thank everyone for their thoughtful and kind words. As of Jan 6 I made it out there and I'm the happiest man alive (IMO). Now begins the real battle in climbing the ranks of the snowboard elite.
Way to go! Good luck on all of your endeavors!
Congratulations! Fortune favors the brave!