Definitely plan ahead really well. Buy giant boxes of bananas, melons, oranges, grapes, and bring lots of fruit with you to work. That way when you get hungry you'll have lots of food available to eat right there.
I see so much complexity in your approach and your thinking with regards to your diet. It's only food, yet look at all the writing you are doing on all of this minutia. The healthy vegan lifestyle should be simple and easy. Eat enough calories every day from fruit/starch and get in lots of greens as well. Drink enough water so that you're peeing clear at least 8 times per day. Exercise at least 4-5 days a week for at least 30 mins a day. That's it. It's that simple. This whole "falling off the raw wagon" thing is complete nonsense to me. Most people I encounter who want to be "fully raw" have no idea how to obtain and store enough fruit to consistently have enough ripe fruit on hand every day, and then they get down on themselves when they eat cooked food out of hunger?!! If you want to feel great and be healthy, then get used to eating lots of dates and bananas. Make them the staple of your raw food calories. Sure there are lots of other fruits out there, but they are not as easy to get year round, or as good for sweet tasting quality. Also, when you don't have enough fruit on hand, or you're reserving fruit for tomorow's breakfast and lunch, I recommend to just eat some cooked starch. Don't go hungry, don't hate yourself because you ate cooked, just eat and get on with your life outside of the kitchen. If you TRULY have the desire to eat 100% raw only, then you need to learn how to turn your home into a fruit ripening wharehouse for bananas and dates. and maybe some other sweet fruits if you can get em. Then just eat enough of them durring the day so that you have lots of energy and don't wind up starving. 2,500+ calories is a crucial daily minimum, and this is especially true on a raw diet in my experience.
You're saying that you are really busy during the day.... I don't think a meal gets much easier than peeling and eating bananas, or drinking datorade on your way to work. You say that you need these meals, but prefer to eat lighter? I would choose what your body needs over your preference.
I advise you end the stop, go, up, down, raw, cooked, - madness. Simplify your approach. Eat enough fruit calories. This website is called 30 bananas a day with very good reason. :)
Hey I haven't seen you on here in a while. I still live in the same area, not sure if you ever got my message about going cycling/working out. If you ever want to hang out with me & my girlfriend, please let us know.
Anyhow...I buy 60-80 pounds of bananas per week. Always having raw fruit on hand in BIG quantities is extremely important.
Also, working out and doing endurance sports with SPECIFIC GOALS, such as racing against the clock, or lifting certain weight, certain speed, certain # of reps...is very important. It will also make your metabolism and diet/hunger/appetite, even out a bit. My 2 cents.