Our duty is to believe that for which we have sufficient evidence, and to suspend our
judgment when we have not. —John Lubbock
We feel anger when we judge or blame someone else. We 'think' the other person 'should' have done or said something differently, and in that moment, we convince ourselves that they 'are' wrong and we 'are' right.
If we continue to focus on their foibles, we have little or no opportunity for healing. On the other hand, if we focus on our own unmet needs, the opportunity for healing exists.
If remaining focused on others, your feelings fester & multiply. However, if you empathize with your unmet needs, of which there may be many, you will be more able to feel compassion for yourself and them.
important unmet needs expressed for trust that others do what agreed to. Requests allow reception of information about what’s important , and opens the door to resolving issues. As a result, becoming more likely to meet your needs in a harmonious and compassionate way. This seems a powerful way to heal anger.
Be aware of when you feel angry and attempt to translate your anger into feelings and needs.