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The differences between encouragement and praise have become more widely noted, studies show the long-lasting effect of each.
It is human nature to want to be supportive of those we love.

Studies show those receiving encouragement reach more success. However, research indicates consistent praise does harms.

If we reward with praise after completion of a task, it becomes expected. However, if praise is not forthcoming, then its absence may be interpreted as failure. In an effort to find a balance, many have begun to encourage in lieu of providing praise.

The differences between praise and encouragement - praise comes paired with a judgment / evaluation (best, good). Evaluative praise creates anxiety, invites dependency and evokes defensiveness, Promoting behavior non-conducive to self-reliance, self-direction and self-control. Encouragement, allows for people to self-motivate, faithful to themselves, and focused on following their own interests.

Praise has become counter-productive to “performance” for what they think others expect, rather than for their own satisfaction.

Although praising others has become second nature to most, learning to encourage forms bonds, understanding and acceptance needed for healthy and happiness. While one thinks more, better to use “descriptive recognition,” giving a more precise description of what you wish to encourage, rather than praising.

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Comment by pradtf on August 7, 2012 at 5:58am

this is very good! never praise the person, but it is fine to praise the deed (ie in the form of encouragement which essentially amounts to empowerment).

tim galloway (the inner game of tennis) noted that compliments are really criticisms in disguise!

in friendship,

prad

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