Tonight was very insightful in the field of relationship with a partner.
I got told I was harsh and telling him he was f***ed up after I asked him to seek help like counseling to deal with his issues of lying, cheating, betraying and abusing women.
That is pretty interesting.
I didn't like the conversation being treated as a monster because I am asking for him to own what he did and take responsibility for what he created for himself and the women including me, that he has been hurting by his behavior and decisions.
But I am certainly not going to allow the abuse or the denial to go on and be presented as the bad one.
As Dr Graham said in one of his conferences, there is no right there is no wrong there are consequences.
I am ready for this too, it is ok if this ends the relationship and we never see each other again.
Because there is no way abuse is going to win over me again, there is no way the past as f***ed up as it is is going to dictate my current and future life and my degree and state of happiness.
It is just not going to happen.
And I agree to disagree with him as much as we are different but I won't let him disrespect me or fool me again.
Heal with me darling, heal with my support. If you are wishing to keep going with the abuse system, good on you too, just it won't be me by your side and it won't be you by my side.
Gorgeous
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Comment by Catherine on May 13, 2012 at 12:17pm Hello Beautiful People and thank you for your input. They all helped me a lot to clear up my head, get some strength and determination in and overcome the obstacle. Another thing I learnt is that the conflict was also created by my lack of self trust. So today I am working this out and being more confident and more trusting ! Have the best of sundays !
Comment by Mera/Feather Story on May 6, 2012 at 9:14am Very brave of you to be honest...definitely you did what you needed to do and you seem to be in a great place about it. Health is a holistic process...our bodies, environments and our relationships need it. Go after it!
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Comment by mathyou on May 5, 2012 at 11:58pm "...his issues of lying, cheating, betraying and abusing women." I don't know, he sounds like a good guy lol. I never understood why women are so hesitant to report that to the police, especially if you have wounds or other evidence to prove it. Don't let him just run to another woman and do that. Make him suffer those consequences with jail time, parole, court ordered counseling, etc.
Comment by Fruit fly on May 5, 2012 at 11:45pm i am sorry for what are you going thro, i am in hard time too. but i know i did my best at a time and i love unconditionally,which me he is free too leave and not be with me, if he want, he is free to do what he wants. but sure i am free to do it as well and the match i leave on god, following what feels good. i dont joudge but i must feel good in relationship in the long run...
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