For anyone out there that has a partner that is a huge meat/dairy eater, don't give up hope! My husband was the kind that used to take pride in eating meat because he was a man and that's what they're "supposed" to do. He also developed a dairy intolerance and every time after eating the smallest bit of milk or cheese, he would cough for the rest of the night, however, he still refused to give it up.
I've had the China Study for years and have mentioned to him that he might want to read it and he always told me that he would sometime but he never got around to it. He's been a full-time student for awhile and has a break this spring before starting graduate school in the fall. So a couple weeks ago I told him that it would really mean a lot to me if he reads it right now because he has the time and when we have kids I need him to support me in giving them vegan foods, even if he doesn't eat that way himself. Also, his grandpa died from cancer two years ago, his grandma was just diagnosed, and both our families our riddled with high blood pressure, diabetes, and other conditions that affect their quality of life. We're both turning 26 this year (which of course isn't old!) but I think he realizes he's out of those invincible years where you can eat everything and anything and not have it affect your health, or at least not notice the effects.
And the results: He's not labeling anything but he's currently eating a vegan diet exclusively and says he will eat meat and dairy if he really feels the need or has an intense craving. He has gone three weeks without them and feels better. The first week he didn't feel good but I told him this was probably his body detoxing. He also started doing yoga with me (something that he once told me he would never do!) and noticed that his sweat even smells better. I bought him a bunch of healthy vegan snacks for his lunch but we still had some leftover snacks that had dairy in it and the other day I asked him if he was going to phase them out and finish what we had and he said no. He also made some vegan dinners such as vegetable stir-fry and grilled portabellos. I've also been finding recipes for him and cooking vegan dinners for him like recently I made african peanut soup, and curried chickpea burgers with homeade mango chutney. It's really weird because I don't taste any of it while I'm cooking but that's also a testament to where I am in my lfrv journey because I don't crave any of this food but get so much joy cooking vegan meals for him and knowing that no animals are suffering for the meals made in our house!
He has made such a huge turnaround and it's a testament that anyone can change! While he is in this open-minded space I'm trying to find recipes that I know he will like and cook for him to make it a little easier, find more information about the long-term benefits of a vegan diet so that he'll feel even better about it, and we'll be watching Earthlings soon so I hope he also wants to make the change out of compassion for the animals :)
Update: Just watched Earthlings and here are the results: Earthlings Thread
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Comment by Carly on April 2, 2011 at 3:39am Thank you Prad! I linked my Earthlings thread and better yet, we watched it this morning and I updated it. I'm overflowing with joy. I used to read discussions on here and would be jealous of people who had vegan partners, even if it was cooked and not yet lfrv. Instead of sitting around and wishing things were different, I gave my partner the benefit of the doubt and not only did he agree to read The China Study and watch Earthlings but he's changing his life because of it. He said that reading it for himself (and not just hearing things from me, which I think is really easy for the ego to block out) really made the difference.
I'm becoming an activist which I'm so happy about. I now post articles on facebook and talk to friends and family and hopefully in the future this will expand even more. My one friend who used to be a vegetarian and stopped after meeting her fiance, became a vegetarian again because of my facebook posts and this time I know it will stick. I'm hoping with time she'll get rid of dairy and eggs. Life is great when it's filled with purpose :)
Comment by pradtf on April 1, 2011 at 1:35pm hey carly that's so great to hear!
i think this you should link to this blog from your earthlings thread if you want to.
stories like this are inspiring for everyone and advocacy is one of the mandates of 30bad.
like i wrote in that thread, your husband may not have asked for all this vegan stuff, but he did ask for you and i think he's got the best deal going!
in friendship,
prad
Comment by Carly on April 1, 2011 at 2:41am Perry, that's great about your in-laws!
I think real men do what is right for themselves and for their family regardless of what they are "supposed" to do.
I definitely agree!
That's fantastic! It's a powerful book - I gave it to my in-laws and they decided to give vegan a try as well.
My husband was the kind that used to take pride in eating meat because he was a man and that's what they're "supposed" to.
I think real men do what is right for themselves and for their family regardless of what they are "supposed" to do.
Thanks for the good news that there is another vegan in the world - keep us posted!
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