I am nobody to judge others
by Owen fox <3
i am nobody to judge others as i havent had their total experiences in life. i havent lived in their skin, i havent had their traumas, hurts and thoughts they've had 10 years ago, last week or in the last hour.
its one thing to know you dont like what someone does and for what reasons, and know what you would like, and you can INVITE change, but to attack, belittle, criticize, blame and condemn is only ego stuff meant to strengthen the false image, the idea, the conceptual identity of who you think you are, because you have lost touch from sensing your own Life, Consciousness, Awareness, Source etc, that You ARE, now.
the ego loves to feel better than, greater than, bigger than, superior in any way or special compared to another. it gives you a greater feeling of who you think you are.
that's all ok too. we dont know the path or journey of each soul. but dont forget, im not talking about passivity here, in not talking about doing nothing or saying nothing. we can be very proactive and INVITE change, and live by example, and talk and speak regularly, and request things of people etc etc, to plant seeds, to show others new ways, show them knew information, without forcing or shoving it down their throats, and that activity can also be part of the process for each person and soul.
its done without heaviness, but with understanding and lightness.
if we grew up as another person, with all their experiences, thoughts, emotions, fears, conditioning, sensitive spots holding them back and triggering them etc... we'd BE them, basically, not just like them. so we would be acting the same etc, interpreting things the same.
we cant expect people to be interested and focused so much on the things WE are focused on and holding dear in life right now. people have their own distraction, upsets, things they're are excited about and worrying about. people have their own marriages, health, conflicts with certain people and all sorts of things distracting them to some degree.
we cant expect people to wish to change immediately to our point of view, even if we think we are right. often it happens, that after a while, WE ourselves end up seeing things differently about certain things, and drop our seriousness or self righteousness on that subject. yet some things are dear and close to our hearts, and i understand and appreciate that too :)
all that said, we can still try to exert influence on others, and even doing nothing has an effect in the world and on people, so im by no means saying we should do nothing or sit on our sofas and become despondent and unmotivated, and expect anything to change that way.
the emphasis is on non judgment, non attachment to results and basically being light about things. yet of course, we can be serious and stern, firm and resolute, with a fire even- but with inner peace and inner tranquility. we can be a busy bee, but its not aggression and negativity fueling us, its a burning wish or a gentle wish, a preference, for something new to be brought about.
lets have understanding and compassion for all folks - not animosity and anger.
"the world doesnt need more love, it needs more understanding" ~ Anthony de Mello.
lets all open our hearts, and open our minds too.
finally, on a practical note: people dont change to being told what to do. it offends and threatens their egos. they shut down. they close their ears. they will automatically defend, justify and counter attack. they will generally not listen to you anymore. conflict will ensue as both people's egos are triggered. old hurts and sensitive spots are triggered and rise up. drama ensues.
all that results and happens along the way is a big stream of negativity, stress, more hurt and pain, commotion, drama and the hardening of one's fixed stand point, one's own ego and idea of either the victim or the righteous one, or both.
and that also includes that your environment, society, friends, families and workmates, and the world itself, is being polluted with the negativity and angry feelings and conflict too. not just the particular people involved. you effect everyone in your nearby surroundings and afar, thru knock-on effect, and thru the fact we're all energetically connected too.
they say our heart produces electromagnetic waves when we feel emotions that travel rapidly and touch everyone on the planet within a second. (i think it was bruce lipton who said this in an interview i heard once)
so lets take care of our level of consciousness, awareness thru examining and investigating our own triggers, our own sensitive unhealed hurts and conditioning, programming and egos, and ENJOY doing so. enjoy the journey of Self discovery and all the joy, peace, ease, celebration, emotional lightness and magnificent relationships it will bring to you!!! :D
lets make people interaction with ANYONE as an opportunity to FEEL GOOD and CONNECT DEEPER with people whom may have different opinions and ideas to us. let it be an occassion to realize that person as a valuable person, and become CLOSE with them instead of further away. lets open our heart doors wide open to everyone. if we show others respect and treat them with reverence, even tho we may emphatically say "i dont agree with you all" etc, with a certain tenderness from the heart, they will be MUCH more likely to do the same to us, and possibly think to themselves, "maybe this person has a point".
it may not be during a discussion or conversation we have with them right there, as nobody generally likes to admit they were "wrong", but it may be in the quiet time later on that day or another day. it's when they dont feel pressurized and TOLD to change that people will take it upon themselves to CHOOSE to change. after all, if i told and insisted that you started doing this thing i really think is a good idea every, you probably wouldnt, but if i mentioned some or all of the great benefits of it in a friendly, respectful manner, you might just try it indeed!! :D :)
thanks for reading :)
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