Re-examine all that you have been told . . . dismiss that which insults your soul. Whatever satisfies your soul is the truth.
Honoring Our Feelings
Ever feel ashamed to admit feelings about things? Ever say to yourself, “I shouldn’t feel that way”? Feelings not good or bad, positive or negative, or even big or little. But simply how you feel. If someone accidentally elbows you, yo
u might feel pain. You might recognize and appreciate that the person didn’t intend to stick his elbow in your side, but it still hurts. How pain expressed could differ. Some could yell. Others might say “ouch” and ask for it not to occur again. No matter how expressed , the feeling of pain stays the same. Emotions operate similarly. You don’t feel too much or have feelings that are too big. Maybe the way you express them is bigger than you enjoy, but the feelings themselves do not exist too big. Thinking in the past I was too passionate because I saw that my passion turned people off. Yet a friend told me that if I were to diminish my passion, I would lose one of the most positive aspects of my personality. Much later, beginning to understand that it wasn’t passion that turned people off; it was the way expressed. As a result, changing behaviors, not feelings of passion. The next time noticing the discounting of feelings or feeling embarrassed of them, remember that feelings “just exist.” Then determine whether to change the way you express them.
Notice how you express feelings and whether to develop new skills that may have more effective results.