honoring your feelings

Re-examine all that you have been told . . . dismiss that which insults your soul. Whatever satisfies your soul is the truth.
—Walt Whitman

Honoring Our Feelings

Ever feel ashamed to admit feelings about things? Ever say to yourself, “I shouldn’t feel that way”? Feelings not good or bad, positive or negative, or even big or little. But simply how you feel. If someone accidentally elbows you, yo

u might feel pain. You might recognize and appreciate that the person didn’t intend to stick his elbow in your side, but it still hurts. How pain expressed could differ. Some could yell. Others might say “ouch” and ask for it not to occur again. No matter how expressed , the feeling of pain stays the same. Emotions operate similarly. You don’t feel too much or have feelings that are too big. Maybe the way you express them is bigger than you enjoy, but the feelings themselves do not exist too big. Thinking in the past I was too passionate because I saw that my passion turned people off. Yet a friend told me that if I were to diminish my passion, I would lose one of the most positive aspects of my personality. Much later, beginning to understand that it wasn’t passion that turned people off; it was the way expressed. As a result, changing behaviors, not feelings of passion. The next time noticing the discounting of feelings or feeling embarrassed of them, remember that feelings “just exist.” Then determine whether to change the way you express them.

Notice how you express feelings and whether to develop new skills that may have more effective results.

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Comment by Sunshine on August 27, 2012 at 7:04am: seems to you and me too ;p

Comment by banana - boy on August 27, 2012 at 6:09am: thanks man ! good advise . this is great topic and i think its a universal one

Comment by Sunshine on August 27, 2012 at 5:07am: oh and then take out the judgement and put your feelings (good)

Comment by Sunshine on August 27, 2012 at 4:41am: i would say a first step for you is to take out the is of predication in that reply and the is of identity and see how it gets more clear

Comment by banana - boy on August 27, 2012 at 2:51am: well said , " the art of expressing feelings" i have been a complete novice either stuffing away feelings or expressing them unwisely at times other times i have done good job maybe carbs matter in how we express feelings? . you are right people" accidently " elbow us helps to know that they are really a threat to us yet it does still hurt....i have much to learn sometimes it is not even what someone says but rather the body language and the tone . hurts by the way they express feelings and i hurt others by the way i express feelings...lots of work to be done here i work on myself...d

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