30 Bananas a Day!

I’ve had a wonderful evening, but this wasn’t it.
—Groucho Marx

Getting Our Need for Love Met

At times finding a situation where needs for love not met. Perhaps partner expresses theit love by helping come up with solutions for problems, but you really wanted them to listen to you. Or perhaps a cat, which you love, vomited on a new, costly rug leaving stains. In both these situations, the need for love goes unmet. Now what to do?

Consider ways in which a partner or friend could meet the need for love. Request something they seem capable of. Such as asking for 30 minutes of time? Make it clear that you don’t want them to try to fix your problems, just to listen. If difficult for them to connect to their own feelings, I would avoid asking them to connect to yours! Instead, ask for what you think they is capable of doing.

Now, about the cat. You could ask her to stop vomiting on your favorite rug, but is it likely she’ll comply? Probably not. Instead, how about asking her to snuggle with you? Whatever the situation, it exists as our responsibility to clarify how we can meet our need for love, while also considering the abilities of our loved ones to comply with our requests.

Make a request of at least one person today in an attempt to meet your need for love.

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Comment by Teri L on August 28, 2012 at 1:55pm

beautiful :)

Comment by Sunshine on August 28, 2012 at 11:51am

if you can't find it one place remember you have options and never count one one person or thing to meet your needs

Comment by Dovima on August 28, 2012 at 8:00am

I'm struggling with this.  I've had a crush on a guy who doesn't seem to be reciprocating the feelings.  I've been single for a long time and I don't have family around.  It gets lonely but I'm proactive and I'm busy with my spiritual fellowship and friendships.  The real bummer is my dog died a month ago and it left a hole in my heart.

Comment by Delight on August 27, 2012 at 4:49pm

I love the Groucho Marx quote.  :D

Comment by MKWildCherry on August 27, 2012 at 12:56pm

sniffle....I NEED a hug now! :D:D

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