At times finding a situation where needs for love not met. Perhaps partner expresses theit love by helping come up with solutions for problems, but you really wanted them to listen to you. Or perhaps a cat, which you love, vomited on a new, costly rug leaving stains. In both these situations, the need for love goes unmet. Now what to do?
Consider ways in which a partner or friend could meet the need for love. Request something they seem capable of. Such as asking for 30 minutes of time? Make it clear that you don’t want them to try to fix your problems, just to listen. If difficult for them to connect to their own feelings, I would avoid asking them to connect to yours! Instead, ask for what you think they is capable of doing.
Now, about the cat. You could ask her to stop vomiting on your favorite rug, but is it likely she’ll comply? Probably not. Instead, how about asking her to snuggle with you? Whatever the situation, it exists as our responsibility to clarify how we can meet our need for love, while also considering the abilities of our loved ones to comply with our requests.
Make a request of at least one person today in an attempt to meet your need for love.