connecting with others

If God seems far away, who moved?
—Unknown

Connecting with Others

Sometimes struggle to connect authentically and vulnerably with others? If in a relationship that is unsatisfying, look at how you participate in it. Anything you can do differently?

Feeling lonely and sad because relationships weren’t as satisfying as wanted. When looking at my part in them, though, I realized that I kept mysel

f protected. Meaning I always looked good. No matter how sad, hurt, or angry feeling, maintaining composure and rarely asked for support. Not vulnerable or authentically connected with other people, although wanting that from them for myself.

Meeting needs for protection but at the same time preventing from meeting needs for connection, support, and intimacy. If struggling in a relationship, look at your own behavior and the needs behind it, and see if changes can get made in the strategies taken that will positively affect your experience.

Look at your relationships and see what things can get done to positively shift experience.

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Comment by Sunshine on August 28, 2012 at 5:55am: yup expectations are jackal language. hard to hear - lead to conflict

Comment by PK on August 28, 2012 at 5:02am: That is kind of what they teach teachers regarding classroom management. While occasionally there may be that kid that no one can control, for the most part, most kids behave most of the time. And why do they behave for some teachers and not others?

The problem may actually be with the technique of the teacher. When the teachers changes strategy, so too does the student.

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A lesson I have learned from relationships is to have no expectations. Let that person live their life, and to live my own. If we have expectations and or we keep trying to change someone, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment, failure, and frustration for both parties.

Peace, PK