Learning that empathizing with some people does not meet my own needs for connection, rest, or joy because needs seem so great or other, more pressing needs than can get met through empathy. One of the basic philosophies of nonviolence exists as the valuing each’s needs equally.
Meaning, considering one's own needs to be equal to another person’s needs.
Choosing to empathize comes with an expense, of not living in nonviolent consciousness. Needs for integrity and caring better met by telling a person up front if the inability to be present to their need for empathy abounds.
Seek awareness of your own needs when someone asks you to emotionally support.