they say i look "healthy now that i put on some weight". as you can see from my pictures, i certainly dont need to put on weight... when they say these things it makes me want to starve myself all over again, and i was making so much progress. why they would say something like that to someone recovering from a eating disorder is beyond me, but i cant help thinking are they right? i really hate them right now. they were saying it as if its a good thing, but theyre both fat. needless to say i had a meltdown about it and slept from 5:30 last night to 7:30 this morning. i tend to do that when im extremely upset.
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Comment by Anastasia/Champagne Mango on July 15, 2012 at 11:18am I sleep when Im really upset too :D
Comment by William Williams on July 12, 2012 at 4:43am Hey Don't worry, Your really sexy.
Comment by Ana Barbu on July 12, 2012 at 4:42am If these comment don't mean " being supportive" I don't know what does and if you can't find support from your family ( wich can be very stressful and sad) you'll just have to lean on the people on this community until you prove your folks wrong.
Comment by Katy on July 12, 2012 at 12:31am A lot of people get jealous even unconsciously. Most people dont want u to succeed, simply coz then they would probably have to agree that this is the way and they should probably change, too, as seeing someone transform in front of them is not something they could deny any more. Its probably not conscious, try not to stay angry with them, just show them that it really works and one day mayb, even they will choose to be healthy. Do not let them pull u back. I can see whats happening to my cousin. Her husband loves meat. She honestly tried the LFRV lifestyle, she was loosing weight (u could tell day by day it was coming off), doing well and then her husband made her believe that they cant afford it and by now she doesnt even believe that it works at all. She now thinks that I am overdoing it I didnt give it up.
Keep going, its so worth it! Look around, look at who u wanna be more like :) And listen to ur body, I bet u feel better on LFRV :)
Comment by Casey on July 11, 2012 at 11:03pm People around you are always going to say things. They don't matter. You have a background of not eating enough, so it will take some time for your body to normalize - it may go up a little but will come back down and will maintain a healthy weight in the long run. Currently your body is recovering from starvation mode and probable deficiency. Don't worry about it - just keep putting in ONLY healthy stuff, and lots of it! If you want to accelerate the process, eat MORE (counterintuitive but really!). Let all the opinions of others go completely, meditate on the fact that you are inputting the best healthy clean goodness possible, and that's a level that most people around you just cannot comprehend. Hang in there, stay focused, and don't give up! You are looking healthier yes but not because of weight, simply because of the vibrancy. Others will not understand what they are seeing, and will talk only in terms of pounds...it's just ignorance, nevermind it. YOU know better!
I think you're doing fantastic, and wish you the absolute best!
Comment by Em on July 11, 2012 at 9:02pm Had the exact same thing to deal with the other day :/ the worst thing is I'd told her that saying things like that triggered me and she still did it. She started with "Please don't think I mean this the wrong way but.." and then carried on despite me telling her I would be extremely triggered by it :S Its horrible but unless people have gone through an eating disorder they have NO idea how any comment even slightly related to your weight can affect you. I have to make myself write down all the reasons why I don't want to look unhealthy anymore that are nothing to do with weight, like having healthy hair and nails and glowing skin and a smile on my face for once. Have a word with them and let them know how you're feeling. Try to make them understand that even you know it doesn't exactly make logical sense to not want to look healthy it still seems to trigger you and really upset you. Its the eating disordered you thinking like that, not the real you! Good luck, if you want to talk you can always ask me :) I know exactly how you're feeling xx
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Comment by sannabanna on July 11, 2012 at 6:26pm in my experience people who hasn't had an ED never know what to say or do to help your progress, which doesn't make them bad people, but they can certainly make you feel horrible about yourself, without having the intentions to do so. you yourself have the responsibility to tell them what you need them to do/say to help you in this progress, cause they cannot read your mind. so either you speak to them personally and tell them, or you give them some literature to read. if you don't do either, then they really don't stand a chance to get things right
good luck, I know it's tough to finally break the silence that has surrounded your ED, but now is definitely the time !
Comment by Helen on July 11, 2012 at 6:06pm And who cares what other people say or think?
Comment by rawcelt on July 11, 2012 at 5:54pm BananaGirl, what does HTFU mean?
I hope Harley told his friend off for being such a jerk.
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