Problems With Parents?

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Permalink Reply by Marieq on August 1, 2009 at 4:10am

I like the idea of 'presenting my case" to her. I'd been reading some articles about protein and calcium while living on raw food and I planned on e-mailing them to her. But getting her to read the 80/10/10 book sounds like a great idea. She won'te read it, but I'll try and show her little snippets of it every now and again. Thanks for the reply!

Permalink Reply by Josh h. on August 3, 2009 at 2:04pm

I've been having trouble, but I'm still working on trying to show them my beliefs and the information/reasoning behind them. It will be a process for me in my situation but one thats well worth it im sure.

Permalink Reply by Nine Lives on September 7, 2009 at 6:29pm

I got it so baad cuz my mom is a very old skool doctor who believes eveything they tought her in medical school. Eveytime i eat i see her looking at me with that you only see in a funeral. Its a crazy situation. I want to make them happy but i am not willing to do something i know is harmful to myself. I love my parents to death and we share a perectly good during the day except when its time to eat and i'm sitting there with a bowl of grapes and they look at me like "That's It!" "That's all your gonna eat". I wish they would just try it and then they would see how it might help them but i know that everything happens as its supposed to and i just feel really grateful that i atleast know these truths for myself. But to answer ur question there are few things you can do that makes a difference.
1) Become really educated in Raw foods. I must've read 80/10/10 a dosen times by now and i still pick it up because nothing is more persuading than cold hard facts and thats what 80/10/10 really is. Now your Stuff.

Permalink Reply by Mary Elizabeth on July 8, 2010 at 11:46am

general physicians only get an average of 3 hours of training on nutrition. so, yeah i've already had more thaa that and i'm a 20 year old with an associates degree.

Permalink Reply by Nine Lives on September 7, 2009 at 6:35pm

2) Become really fit. Although its not neccessarilly true, but people who are in good physical shape apear to look healthy and parents will probably think the same way.
3) Get checked up regularly at a physician (prefferably a holistic doctor who is well versed in raw foods). A thumbs up coming from a proffesional is very comforting to parents. They'll feel allot better once its done. Possibly even get some blood work done :)
4)Do not try to persuade them to become 811. This is a big mistake i did when i first started as a raw foodist and i apologize to anyone i rambled on to. Lead by example. If you trully beleive this is the healthiest and best way to live, then live it and let the results speak for itself.
5)Show them lots of love. In the end thats all we really need and they'll apreciate it and it'll teach them to look past the weird eating habits and remember your still their loving child.

Hope this Helps,
Much love,
Nine Lives

Permalink Reply by Mary Elizabeth on July 8, 2010 at 11:50am

i regularly get blood tests (ever 6 mnths) so i can know and also if people ask (my bf's mom is old skool polish lady who isn't even very healthy herself but thinks she has the secret to youth and healthy every time she gets something new fro GNC) lol her best friend is an old skool polish doctor named anna, so that's fun. so every time they say something, i tell them that i just had my blood tested and i have optimal or normal everything (which i do) :) it's a good tool to combat the "mother knows best syndrome"

Permalink Reply by Durianwriter on September 11, 2009 at 4:21am

I agree with Amre. The biggest mistake I made was trying to get my family to eat more % raw, especially since my dad was diagnosed with diabetes at the same time. It just made my mom super defensive about their wheat-based diet. When I visit them I eat fruit until dinner, and then eat whatever vegan dinner my mom makes.

Permalink Reply by Jennelle LeMoine on September 25, 2011 at 1:39pm

exhibit A- my blog in the talking about my first 10 days. lol

Permalink Reply by Riela Molinuevo on November 18, 2011 at 11:39am

I'm having a lot of trouble with it, still. My parents get overtly angry if I don't eat thei food, they say that I am not eating balanced and whatnot, that I have to eat everything. They're cutting down on the fruit they buy me (technically I should eat all the fruit they buy me in about a day or 2 and I have been having to make it last for me throughout the week with some rice everyday). My parents refuse to listen to me. They've accepted me being vegan at least; that's a start. :)

Permalink Reply by alejandra solorio on April 3, 2012 at 1:49pm

Luckily, my mom is okay with my "weird" eating habits. I turned vegetarian when I was 15 years old and she thought I was crazy. Shortly after, I just dieted a lot and restricted a lot. Shortly after that, I binged a lot (and purged) but she'll never know that. Shortly after that, I declared myself vegan. And I am now raw vegan. She thinks it's weird and extreme and another "phase" of my crazy eating habits but its not. I feel so balanced. She sort of just accepted it. She's benefiting from it too, though. She says that she's following me and is starting to eat more veggies and I always allocate some smoothie for her whenever I make it c: I showed her this video of this woman from Miami that is 70 and she does not look a day over 30 and it was all because of raw veganism. She was like wow :o. If you want to see that video search ageless woman.. i think. 

Permalink Reply by Micah Gibson on April 26, 2012 at 12:53pm

I think most of the backlash comes from cultural reasons, in other words, generations of your family haven't been raw vegans, and that concept is so far from their comfort zone, so they assume it's bad or hurting your body. The best thing to do, is talk with them, and address all their concerns, and the typical "where do you get your protein" type of questions. Your family might honestly be concerned for your health, and think you'll become sickly and weak from eating raw foods, so try not to give them too hard of a time, just educate them on the facts. I'm the only one in my family for generations who have even considered this lifestyle. My mother has been supportive, and is actually quite aware of the fact that you can get really healthy on this lifestyle. One time I told my grandmother about wanting to eat this way, and she said, well you have to eat meat, and I asked why, and she didn't answer me, it's something that is cultural and something that is accepted as being good for so long, that because just assume it's healthy and good, without even knowing why. So take it easy on your fam, and be patient with them, if your patient, I think you'll find it much easier, and your lifestyle might even rub off on them.

Permalink Reply by Emlee Nicole on June 12, 2012 at 1:58pm

My parents are strange combination of worry and indifference. When I told them what I was going to do the first things that came up were... protein, amount, and money. Two days later I got a ton of fruit. It rocked.

My mom will on occasion talk about friend's of hers that 'failed on this diet'... I just explain how it cannot just be a diet, it has to become your lifestyle. She talks about my protein consumption and I just tell her to worry more about b12.

The thing that bothers me the most is when I am eating large portions of something and she tells me I am eating to much. My mother is wonderful and buys me lots of fruit but I wish she would trust me more because I know what I want to be in my body.

I think money is the hardest thing. I don't like stressing them about finances as my brother is soon to go to college. Next year will be interesting. :-) 

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