Introvert vs. Extrovert?

Hey all. I've been dating an extrovert for about 6 months now and have finally realized how much we rub each other the wrong way and how much work it is to stay together. We're both looking for validation, love and to share happiness, but we go about it such different ways. Our personality differences make the relationship blow up every week or so.

The basic difference between: an intro recharges their batteries by being along; an extro recharges by being with people. After a long day at work, an intro would want to read quietly, meditate or listen to music, while an extro would want to talk at length about the day.

So I'm wondering, and willing to bet, that a lot of the fruity peeps here are introverts. I feel it takes a lot of alone time away from society to develop the consciousness needed to advance to a 80-10-10 diet. Introverts have this built into their personality. It seems that an extrovert would feel weird going against the norm.

Let's hear from the group: do you consider yourself an introvert or extrovert?

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Permalink Reply by O on April 9, 2012 at 3:47pm

(I'm not single but joined this group as this topic is of interest to me and it wouldn't let me post anything unless I joined. I hope it's ok. If not, moderators, please let me know how to leave this group. Thanks.)

Permalink Reply by Stacey on April 9, 2012 at 3:54pm

I am INFJ too.

Permalink Reply by O on April 9, 2012 at 5:07pm

'Judgement' here stands for something a bit different than what I believe you are referring to :)

That's what Wikipedia says:

"J – Judgment preferred to perception: INFJs tend to plan their activities and make decisions early. They derive a sense of control through predictability."

Permalink Reply by O on April 9, 2012 at 6:22pm

Ah, ok, misunderstood you then, sorry :)

Permalink Reply by debbie driver on April 9, 2012 at 7:22pm

hey ! Really interesting topic! Well I am both! I do love to chat however I love my own company and spend alot of time on my own creating stuff (songs, guitars practice etc) i do miss seeing people but I dont miss seeing the sort of person you get at the local pub/bar. My mum always says i should go out more, my answer is why? I dont drink smoke or do drugs now getting my head round 80/10/10, Its going to be very rare I find like minded people in those joints. I think its about getting a balance and feeling comfortable with being on your own, most other "normal" people would just run to the nearest pub before spending time alone

Permalink Reply by Amy Apricot on April 9, 2012 at 9:49pm

introvert

Permalink Reply by Janna Bannanna on April 11, 2012 at 5:57pm

I've always considered myself an extravert, but I'm always going against the grain. Lately I've felt more introverted. According to the test I'm only slightly extravert...
http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes3.asp

http://keirsey.com/4temps/champion.aspx

I like the description of a "champion", pretty much sums it up! Goes really well with my profile pic ;)

Permalink Reply by Janna Bannanna on June 14, 2012 at 8:33pm

Took this test again last night and now I'm INFP. Interesting change for extro to intro. I must be almost on the fence because I feel slightly extroverted still.

Permalink Reply by lili on June 16, 2012 at 7:49am

Introvert, for sure. Sometimes I wish I would be a bit more extroverted, but then again, I like to be 'detached' from the outer world. Ironically, the field I study involves a lot of social interaction, so I'm interested how it's going to work when I finish University and begin working *anxious*

Permalink Reply by SwtCandy on June 18, 2012 at 2:14pm

I don't think being an extrovert necessarily makes being hcrv difficult... I LOVE being around people and can talk all day long :P but eating "massive" amounts of fruit doesn't make me uncomfortable around other people. Seeing as how I am the only raw vegan (regular cooked vegan too) in my local circle of friends, it doesn't keep me from going out. It gives me an opportunity to talk about why I eat the way I do and the stares and comments from mostly strangers are quite amusing to me.

That being said, as far as dating, I don't know how I'd feel in your situation... you know the saying opposites attract? Balance in a relationship is so important- maybe you could meet halfway? Try and understand each other. Relationships do require work and compromise, the question is... is it worth it? Remember a person will never fulfill every single minute detail in your requirements for a partner- you get the good with the bad and it makes life much more interesting! Best of luck to you...

Permalink Reply by HarmonyRose on July 1, 2012 at 7:53am

Hi Mike!

I think this subject is an age-old debate in relationships: Do opposites attract (and stay together)?

I am definitely an introvert, always have been, and i believe i always will be. My best friend (for 12 yrs) is an extrovert, and we couldn't be closer (but not like THAT, haha).

I've been in a relationship with an intro and an extro. The intro lasted 18 months, and the extro 2.

I know what works for me...

HR x