Please don't yell at me for posting this, but I have read through numerous discussions on the importance of getting enough calories. I understand that, however; I feel WORSE on more calories. I feel sick when I try to eat anything near 2000 calories. I absolutely believe that living 100% raw fruit and veg is the way to go, but I'm small so why do I have to eat alot?
I'm short and have a small frame so it doesn't take much to get me full. Plus I am trying to lose weight/fat so why overeat? Stats: Currently 5'0, 125 lbs(I think - I stopped weighing myself - it kinda drove me nuts), and I'm 21. I don't do much exercise because I never feel like I want to. I do go to college with a giant campus so I walk everywhere.
I am not 100% yet because I seem to always give in when I go home and my mom has a home cooked meal made. That is due to my own issues of relating my mom's dishes to positive memories and feelings in which I give in. That's a whole separate issue I need to control.
Today I had three apples and an entire bag of grapes. I don't plan on eating for the rest of the night. I'm stuffed. That's a good thing right? Facts and what people say tell me that this is wrong and not enough, but my body is saying otherwise. I'm SO confused!
you dont have to do anything at all, maybe thats something to think about
Why force the calories in and stretch your stomach? I often hear people say how change takes a really long time on this program. It takes a long time for the body to adjust to gorging on bananas all day in order to lose weight for example. So perhaps it could take a long time to build up that appetite as well? If it is such a natural way to eat then let it happen naturally.
Check out this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ghnoqA3qIuE
"eat in between as much as you want and as much as you can" (around min 8:15)
I like to graze throughout the day so that way I still get all of my calories in but I don't feel like I am going to explode eating three meals a day
The downside of this approach is that you don't give your teeth any time in between meals to recover from acidity. So if you think you start having problems with your teeth, I'd suggest going for less meals. (Learned that by reading "Raw Food Controversies" by Frederic Patenaude)
That's why you eat ripened, high quality fruit.
Check out Mike Arnstein's teeth. He does the grazing and eats 4-6K a day.
It just takes some time for the stomach to stretch. I know it feels normal this way, but it will feel normal when it stretches, too. I've been at this a week and half and my stomach (which is very damaged and non-elastic btw) is actually stretching. It feels so good to be able to eat 4 or 5 bananas together in one sitting and have no problem with it. (I'm amazed.) I just kind of eat gradually throughout the day to get cals in. I'm 5'10", so I break it up into 3 parts - 1000 cals before 1pm, 1000 cals before 5pm and then 1000 until bedtime. I try and aim for that but if I don't make my goal, I don't worry about it and just start my new 1000 when it's time.
I basically have sometimes bananas or a smoothie for breakfast (huge smoothie that I drink throughout the morning), a huge smoothie for lunch, and a big salad for dinner - then I have frozen bananas or mangoes or strawberries blended as ice cream for dessert. It's work, for sure, (not that much) but I have to as my health is shot to heck and I do not have a choice. I am thinking of it as: Trading in crap health, sluggishness, and what society considers 'nutritional food', which is the opposite... For fabulous health and the chance to fulfill my dreams and see my kids get old w/ me. These things mean the world to me.
On another note, I know some mentioned the amt of food you're getting relates to breaking down and having cooked. For me, this is most definitely the case, I can tell you. I want to say, though, that one thing I had to do (I hadn't even found 811 yet, though), but I had to separate myself from drama that I could not fix. This was a very difficult thing for me (in relation to family.) But when the dust settled and some relationships actually did not remain intact, all I had to look at and work on was myself. I'm in no way suggesting this would be anything close to your scenario, all I'm suggesting is that it's possible that might be trying to kind of 'be a good daughter'. Maybe you allow your mother to feed you because you feel you're all she has. (?)It's a situ. full of pressure, for sure.
If you are wanting to try and go full raw, here is a suggestion. When you go home just bring 3 ripe mangoes with you. (I just prefer mangoes to bananas - but whatever you like..) Eat them sometime before dinner and see how you feel. Then you can up the amt, as needed. For me, it curbs any desire to eat cooked at all. (It's really easier than I thought.)
Congrats on hitting your week and a half raw! Good to know your stomach is gradually stretching and that you have a set plan in order to hit your number of calories per day. I am going to try to set up a plan as well. Also, it sounds like a lot of people can get in more calories easier by blending their food into juices like you with your smoothies. "Trading in crap health, sluggishness, and what society considers 'nutritional food', which is the opposite... For fabulous health and the chance to fulfill my dreams and see my kids get old w/ me. These things mean the world to me." You are right - those things are incredibly important.
Thank you for addressing my emotional issues better than, "Just eat more and you will be fine." It is much more complicated than that. I see where everyone is coming from, but wow, there is very little empathy. I can't separate myself from my parents because I would crush their hearts, but yes you NAILED IT. You actually made me cry! Yes, I do it to be that "good daughter." I am all my parents have left in life. The rest of my family is overseas and my parents only have one family friend. They have no one anymore. Yes, it is a lot of pressure, but I need to start living my life and doing things for me.
I know deep down going fully raw is the lifestyle I am going to adopt because it simply makes sense and feels right. I will use your suggestion and bring 3 ripe mangoes with be when I go home (I love them!). Thank you for addressing and validating my feelings. That made me feel 100x better and is giving me more confidence in myself that I can do that and listen to all the wonderful advice that everyone is giving me. I guess deep down, all I was looking for was validation for my feelings. I wish I could hug you right now. Thank you.