Hey there, I really need your advice... please help....
I came to this lifestyle around three months ago after restricting my cals for several years.
I got down to 140lbs by resticting cals and eating high protein, low carbs (but with fruit). Also with binge and purge too due to low number of cals. I'm 5' 9" btw.
But then I came off the 'diet' and ate so much crap over the past 8 months the weight has ballooned. So tried calorie resticting again, which led to binge and purge, then phases of Dukan diet (like Atkins) and other fad diets - even Carb Addicts diet!!!! but then heard about this lifestyle.
But since starting this I have, and am still gaining weight. I'm around 160lbs now and look awful! I really want to get back down to 140 but healthily but I'm scared by eating so many cals every day I'm just going to keep piling the weight on. This is from the calories in vs calories out that I've alway been taught is the way to lose weight.
I eat mainly dates and bananas, apples, salads, and occasional rice, quinoa and rice pasta, oh and rye bread, around 3-3500 cals a day! I also ride my bike to work every day and run most days, or do some sort of exercise. I don't eat salt and my fat in take is really low. Why am I gaining weight still? Can any long termers give me advice about this please, as I am really considering going back to calorie resticting (I really don't want to do that though! )
Please give me advice how to lose the weight!!!
Its called having a fast metabolism.
People with fast metabolism don't get fat as FL was...
I have slow metabolism and I loose 1 kg per week by eating dates in an insane quantity (I have a 16kg stock !! haha) and fruit salad (bananas and mangoes). When I really want a salty meal, I prepare a tomato salad with mixed herbs.
The only extra I have is vegetarian masaman curry at lunch, which is potatoes and soy beans in curry sauce served with zucchini noodles (the plate is small).
I have completely stopped rice, bread and dairy (0%) the second day, as it was hurting my digestion since I've started 80% fruit diet.
After one day, I have stopped counting calories, so boring and I do not exercise at all since two months, as a result of an injury.
I repeat: I have slow metabolism and I loose 1 kg per week.
Rye bread has more gluten than wheat. If you can't go all the way to 100 % raw, definitely give up gluten containing grains. I lost 25 pounds many years ago while still eating SAD just by giving up gluten. So no barley, rye, wheat, kamut, spelt or conventional oats.
I gained weight too in the beginning because I was restricting carbs all the time. I ate no fruit or bread or pasta. Nothin!
All I can say is give it time. For me, the weight took a YEAR to fall off and I'm still not down to my ideal. But I look to Freelee and KCB as my inspiration. Also, you need to make sure that you are exercising about 6 days a week for 20 mins. I would get rid of the whole grain breads as they are likely to make you bloated. My advice is eat fruit in the morning and if you're gonna eat cooked food, just make it at night. Keep it 80-10-10 too.
Calculate using a calorie counter every piece of food that goes into your mouth. Put in your exercise too. Over time you will have a diary and that will help you.
Do not eat 4 hours before going to bed.
Have a large breakfast and make the meals smaller as you go along.
If you do all these things, you should lose some weight.
if you eat what you say then you do great and really you have nothing to worry about. I would recommend you to go easy with tranning. It may create a lot of stress that may make your body to keep the fat.
We live in such crazy world - when you do not move or produce then you are somehow invalid. We need to learn to rest again.
Doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong diet wise. I agree with everyone else in saying your body just needs time to transition. It is used to not having enough carbohydrate calories and will store then until it trusts you again.
Please don't give up! I gained weight when I first started too. I never had an eating disorder, but I had Crohn's Disease meaning I was malnourished for about 18 months. I'm not entirely happy with the way I look either, but I refuse to give up because I feel so good. Having a bit of extra weight has also forced me to come to terms with body image issues, and to a large extent, I have gotten over any attachment I have to looking a certain way.
It is a journey, not a quick fix. Please don't give up. You're beautiful just the way you are.
You have THRASHED your body on that low carb/starvation/stimulant abusive lifestyles and now are on the rebound. Its like thrashing a car for years and now its in the repair shop. Yeah you can take it back out and thrash it again but we all know what will happen. Your inflammation is normal and will subside over time.
Before I even read this thread I knew what you had done judging by the title.
To calculate your calorific need and lose weight you do the following -
A rough guide to the max calories needed to lose weight per day = (Your weight in Kg x 40) + (any extra calories you may burn with the exercise you do per day) - (the deficit for the weight you want to lose)
You have to tweek it to see what works for you as e.g not every banana is 100 cals and calories burnt in exercise is also rough.
I think a deficit of 100 calories a day creates a weigh loss of 1lb a week. Try it and see. If 100 calories is too hard to handle, then cut it back to an amount you can deal with but in order to lose weight there must be a deficit (whether that be by eating less or exercising soooo much more - the eating is a more effective method. Remember people who do actually eat what they want and get away with it are generally those who have a very high metabolism from years of exercise and eating well and even sometimes people get away with it by eating badly. Men generally have a very hot internal fire and sometimes never get fat regardless of what they eat).
You must create a calorie deficit to lose weight. We don't all want to be taking years to lose weight - thats just silliness!
However, please just don't focus on weightloss... and make sure you stay raw.
Also - stay away from dates - you can't guarantee they are whole foods and sometimes can be dried to a degree - thus you can end up overeating on these as they are not in their true natural state. Try to only eat fruit as whole as possible and watery fruit is better.
Let me know how it goes and if you want more help then PM me!
You do realize that advising calorie restriction is NOT following 30BaD.
That's one of the benefits of this lifestyle. No calorie restriction. EVER.
I think the best calorie advice is to eat as much as you care for. If you are hungry, eat 5,000 calories a day. If you are not very hungry, stop at 2500... I eat anywhere from 2300-3500 calories a day and I'm losing weight at a rate of 1-3 pounds a month, which I'm happy with. I am doing this for health and I don't care if it takes me 2 years to lose the weight I need to lose. I also feel a lot better and lose more if I stick to all raw. You may want to try a 30 day raw challenge. I also find when I am 100% raw I eat more calories. My body gets hungrier, probably because the fruit is digesting so fast. Good luck! Also, I'd LOVE to be 160 pounds (and I'm 5'6)... so don't think of yourself as overweight :)
Thanks for that KGG. I think that's where I'm heading in this somewhat tedious calorie debate. After just finishing up a month, I don't think I could have made it with our DR and FL's advice to push myself to eat at least 2500, so I'm really grateful for that. I would have fallen off for sure had I not been stuffed silly with fruit. Some days it is really difficult to stuff 2500 calories down, other days its easy to do 3500 or more. I think that phrase is best "as much as you care for." That's where I'm heading. I'm now gently pushing myself to stretch my stomach and eat until I'm ever so slightly uncomfortably full and definitely don't want anymore. I want to do that every time I'm hungry. And by doing that, if my day's calories end up at only 2100 or end up at 4000, so be it.
160 would be my ideal goal too, and I'm 5'5". I haven't seen that weight for 20 years. Like you, I don't care how long it takes at this point, as long as I'm going in the right direction for my health.
edited to say, I haven't lost weight either -- yet. That's hard to swallow sometimes, but hey, I feel like a million bucks and that's enough for now.