Hey guys! I am loving this website! Been reading it the past week, there's just so much information!! Since I have been on this lifestyle, I feel vibrant and good and full of energy. I haven't felt this good in ages! The only thing is, like so many of us, I am dealing with unsupportive people, like my husband. I am sure he's just worried and all - when actually, I am the one who should be worried, he's obese - but it really drags me down.
Conversation yesterday went like this:
Hubby: "hey hun, what should I bring you from the store tomorrow?"
Me: "lots of bananas, some pineapple, apples, ..." started listing more of my fave fruits.
Hubby: "Fruit again!? You know you can't live on fruit!"
Me: "Why not?"
Hubby: "You know why! It's just not healthy. Everyone with some common sense knows that!"
Me: "Aha. And eating deep fried foods and pasta like you are eating is healthy?"
Hubby: "Well... Healthier! You can't just eat fruit all day!"
Me: "Actually, I am supposed to eat fruit all day. It's the healthiest diet there is".
Hubby: "OMG, you're stupid to think that".
Me: "Educate yourself before we keep on discussing this, please...!"
Hubby then went to bed and started snoring loud. I really need some earplugs...
Can't he see how good this feels to me? *sigh*
I slowly cut out meat out of my diet, I have never been a meat eater, really. Only ate meat 3 times a month or so. Hubby, who eats meat every meal of the day, wasn't too crazy about the change at first, but he came around. Then I started cutting out cheese slowly and only ate fruits and veg. He thinks I am "too extreme" now. I told him if he brought anything from the store that isn't a fruit or a vegetable, I just won't eat it. That really ticked him off, but I can't change who I am just to please him. I hope he'll soon accept this.
But anyway, I am glad to have found this community and look forward to talking to you all :)
this is such great advice, chris! thank you for sharing =] and hi nerada, so glad you're loving the community!
"When the student is ready to learn, the teacher will appear." ;)
Many partners come around and support our choices. Many don't. Its a personal choice what level of partner we settle for. Its also a personal choice how long wants to wait for a partner to come around to being supportive of us and even themselves in healthy lifestyle practises.
Just start going to the store for yourself. You can buy fruits and vegetables during your lunch break or on the way home from work.
I am fortunate, my wife fully supports my new lifestyle and she is starting to like the salads and smoothies I make.
She is excited about the transformation my body is going through. I am getting fitter, my mood is high and my energy is off the charts.
welcome nerada! trust me my mom wasnt going to let me buy boxes of bananas, then she saw how amazing i felt and she was all for it! ive struggled with medical issues for almost 6 years so for them to not encourage something that makes me feel good was silly! hope ur hubby realizes that this makes u feel good and its all that should matter! does he want u to feel crappy? hope not, love! <3
Kill them with kindness, don't worry to much about it keep loving him and lure him over to our side with awesome fruit meals :)
That's the right track.
Hey Nerada, Its a shame he hasn't seen the change in you that you see/experience...
If you have little time, find out if there is a local co-op that delivers fresh produce. They seem to be starting up everywhere, that way you can just order on line or the phone.
Keep up the good work, you are definetly on the right path.
Welcome Nerada. :)
Welcome Nerada... Don't give up, stay strong. We are here to support you! <3
Wow- Nerada, you are very strong. Takes guts to eat differently than your partner, let alone someone you simply live with! Lucky for you, your guts will get stronger in multiple ways :)
Thank you, MaRaw DoberVegan!
It sure is tough at times, smelling what he cooks for dinner. It really makes me feel sick sometimes. And looking at it is even worse at times.
The other day, I was enjoying my daily banana & date smoothie, and he joined me at the table with his food. I literally had to stop eating or I'd puke. The smell and the look of it... it was just too much.
We mostly eat at different times, so I can fully enjoy my food. I really wish he would join me on this lifestyle, but I don't think he ever will. He is a meat lover, and nothing I say convinces him to stop eating meat. It breaks my heart, but I guess I will have to live with it.