I have been trying for literally MONTHS to stay on 811. Since probably March-April. And I am beginning to get very frustrated with myself and my lack of willpower, I guess.
I'll do great for a while, then I'll be in a situation where I'l have no food around me, I'll be starving, and I'm forced to eat SAD crap to stay alive. I then have skin breakouts and a pissy mood for days. I am currently stuck in this rut again for probably the 57382397258th time, and I really wish I knew how to keep at it for long term success.
I keep screwing myself over, and I really need to stop. Every day I say I'm starting over, but I end up just screwing up again, and it's an ongoing, never ending cycle of me eating meat and dairy and abandoning what I know is right for me. I get extremely upset about it, and I wish I could stay strong but I just can't!
Does anyone have any advice? I'm trying to start over again tomorrow, and I'm afraid it'l end up like every other time I've tried - a failure. I'm sick of it, and I know what I need to do, so why is actually doing it so difficult?
Any suggestions or help would be so greatly appreciated.
You sound so much like me- I have been on this amazing journey for about six months now, today I start 100% lfrv :)
I used to do so well in the mornings then in the evenings have cheese on toast and put huge amounts of spinach on top to make me feel like I am still doing well. I decided enough is enough. For me I know that this WILL be the time to change once and for all!
I have made sure I have no cooked food, temptation in my home, I have told all of my family & friends about this decision- there will be times when the cravings/temptations are there but keep at it. Pick youself up and carry on... it seems like you keep coming back to it and starting again that is a good sign, just keep at it and with time you will continue i'm sure.
I have been vegetarian for years so I suppose it is easier for me as I will not eat meat but it's the cheese that was my problem, but now I have decided that I am going at this 100%.
I have written pros and con lists and posted up in my house yummy pics of fruit. I also am reading alot about lfrv and watching loads of videos, I think at first for me it is a good thing to become slightly obsessed with it so it's in your mind and then gradually it will just become habit to pick the fruit and veg :)
I am sure you will be able to do this :) infact I know you can- you just need to keep reminding yourself why.
The very best of luck to you :)
You gotta remember- you fail your way to success- that is THE ONLY path to success. Everything you're going through is because your path is unique to you and your life is trying to tell you something, to show you something that is yours alone. Your life, your lesson. The embarrassing failures everyone goes through on their way to their own successes- well, no one wakes up and just walks into success. If it was that easy, everyone would be doing it. Plus, 811 is simple, not necessarily easy. I have found that when I am focused on "I gotta do this, or get this done, etc" and have trouble accomplishing what I want that it helps to look at it from a different perspective. In AA, accountability is a powerful tool- to have to explain to someone why you are doing what you are doing- you could start a blog and write on it every day about your struggle. Imagine someone else struggling like you and knowing, without a doubt, that they are not alone. Plus, it will give you some objectivity and, when you go back and see your successes, minor or major, it will help you see that it is the process, not the product, the journey, not the destination. Hope this helped!
If the city in your profile is real (my family is on drury lane) drive over to Trader Joe's. Pickup 8-10 pounds of turkish figs, dried mango's, dried banana's and dried apricots. Make sure they are the no sugar added types. Keep them in your car and purse. They will last for months in your car. When you have no healthy food around you just make sure to have some dried fruit and scarf down until your full. At 1000-1200 calories per pound you'll only need a pound or so to fill up.
This will block 90% of the urge to mess up as you'll be full and satisfied. Dried foods are like cheat foods without cheating. Tons of condensed flavor compared to fresh. Not the best if you have major overeating problems but perfect to avoid eating junk foods. I always carry dried fruits on my bikes and vehicles.
How come you get into situations with out food? Is it a money issue, or a lack of planning issue?
Maybe you need a few stepping stones before you can go fully 80/10/10. Try going vegan first. Educate yourself on meat and dairy, and why they're not good for your body (and the animals, and the environment!). Have you seen Forks Over Knives?
Once you've got the hang of no meat/dairy, then you can work your way to 80/10/10. Have fruit for breakfast everyday (as many calories as you can!), then once you can't imagine having anything else for breakfast, do the same for lunch, and then dinner. While you're doing that, make sure to reduce your salt and oil intake to the absolute minimum (like Dr. McDougall style).
For some people doing things over-night works. For me personally, although I went 80/10/10 overnight, I was vegan for a few months beforehand (before I even knew of 80/10/10).
The most important thing is to do your research! Make sure you know why you're doing what you're doing. That way you actually have concrete reasons to stay on the path you want.
I have to agree with doing your research. I try to watch all the documentaries I can on netflix about our food industry and it's pretty amazing to watch. My husband and I are pretty convinced at this point we just need to become organic farmers ourselves (we have access to 44 acres of family land in Alabama). The more you read, watch, learn, the more it gets easier.
Something that helped me was to experiment with the learning experience. I learn best by what I experience first hand. Trying to learn something from a "slip" could for example involve a slip to eating cooked food. Once you have slipped take note of the effects of eating cooked foods like the after taste of the foods and the energy level of your body after a cooked meal and anything else you notice. The next day eat fresh raw foods and compare the way you feel raw to the exact same things you noted after eating the cooked foods. Is there any difference ?
These are short term effects. There are also long term effects like health & wellness differences.