Hi everyone. I'm new here, and I have a new problem. I have been vegan for about 18 months and have been flirting with lfrv for maybe the past 6 months. My family is somewhat supportive, but they also do and say things that are hurtful and discouraging.
I recently moved back in with my family after being on my own for 5 years. This past week my mom started making snarky comments about how I smell. According to her, I smell "like broccoli" because my "body is not getting what it needs." These comments are hurtful for several reasons. I have great hygiene and shower everyday following my workouts, have asked other parties if they have ever smelled this stench on me, and have tried to sniff it out myself and I DON'T KNOW WHAT SHE IS TALKING ABOUT.
Part of me thinks that she may be just saying this to hurt me or turn me off from this lifestyle, but I'd like to give her the benefit of the doubt. Do any of you have suggestions of what I can do or say to make her stop saying mean things like this? Do I actually smell? If so, how do I make it stop?
If you can taste, then you can smell. Yell her she is right, and compliment her that she smells also. Then nicely inform her that she meant to say "You stink". (Or that "you have an odor" or "Your body has a smell to it").
Don't worry, the stink is a good thing, provided you are 100% raw, any raw discipline. (Though some healthier than others).
Tell her the stink is all the toxins and nasty stuff purging from your body from the first 25+ years of eating whatever foods you were eating, whether considered "wholesome" or "fast food", it was cooked. Within a year, you will be oderless, and not only that, your sweat will then likely not go rancid and stink, even days old. When I was 25 and Raw, I could drench my shirt several times a day in sweat, and wear it for a few days without stink until it appeared soiled. At that point, my s*** did not stink, it just had a distinctive mild odor. Things will get better.
hahah DF,big scary fruit eating lmao !!
some people even those closest to us,would like to lower us down to the level they are comfy at,so it makes them feel unchallenged and better about their own choices !
People sometimes forget that words can be weapons.
Well done for making the progress you have made towards a better lifestyle and health.
Also in a cleaning out phase of introducing more raw foods,you may smell,i remember when i was first detoxing,i stunk,i mean phhhhhewww!i could smell it on myself!
It passes,the sweeter and cleaner you eat(more fruit) and you will smell wonderful,i actually get clients telling me how beautiful i smell,and i don't wear perfume.
give yourself time,don't feel hurt,you should feel proud of yourself,and surround yourself with kind,supportive like minded people :)
quote: I smell "like broccoli"
Some people like the smell of broccoli so maybe she is saying that you smell good ?
You should thank her for the compliment.
I took my time transitioning to this lifestyle. I did smell for awhile right after the change (months), so think about the possibility that you are still eliminating things that make you smell, regardless of your improved eating habits now. However, I wasn't working out much, and not being very knowledgable about what I was doing, I made lots of mistakes. So I may have smelled for other reasons than past sins. It didn't last forever, and we got through it.
You are challenging you mother's beliefs just be being and doing what you are. She believes you need more than what you eat, and will not change that belief easily. She may cope with the challenge to her beliefs by saying things that are hurtful to you. On your side, if you can accept her difficulty and not take it personally, you may be better able to let comments like that go without it affecting you much. You can also talk with her and let her know that it hurts your feelings, and hopefully she will make an effort to be kinder.
I really, really doubt that you smell. It must be quite the opposit! I don't even stink after working out and why would I if I don't eat meat. Vegan's body odor completely diminish. (And as I've heard from a lover, vegans even taste much better!)
Your mom is just teasing. She probably does it because she's worrying about you. You probably can't change her view, but you can try to sit down with her and tell her lovingly that you feel hurt by her comments and all you wish is to live in peace with her. Ask her to accept and respect that we are all different.
Vegans and vegetarians have all sorts of body oders, though much less, and less offensive than meat-eaters. It's Raw diet that eliminates purging, stinking stuff coming out of the skin and other orifices. (Years of experience).
There will be an odor to the Raw foodist, though it is more likely to be subliminal and natural, and essential (pheromones).
I tell you what hcrv's do have,and that's an incredible sense of smell,i can tell you more SAD eating people smell bad than any hcrv's i have met,and i have been around alot of them(hcrv's)
I can smell somethings so strong,that most people have to stop what they are doing,and sniff and sniff and say i can kind of smell something,far out!!
Quote: According to her, I smell "like broccoli" because my "body is not getting what it needs.
My favorite thing to do when people say things like this, is to ask them exactly what it is that my body is NOT getting. To date I have never received an answer haha.