I may be traveling there in under 10 days and want to eat high fruit. Hear that the fruit is amazing but was wondering if any of you had firsthand experience doing 80/10/10 in India?
I'm going to be in the south for the most part. I need some beach and sun so bad!
If you are not showing any public affection it may not be an issue. If you are out during the day also not so much of an issue. If you go out at night together THEN it can be an issue. if his hindi is up to scratch he may be able to explain the situation. If you are accommodating with them and act very polite and shy, the more likely outcome is they just ask you to move along.
I think we ran into a lot of grumpy officers, I doubt they were the norm.
As he is "westernized" he may be more easy going with you by his side and will defend any snide remarks and such. But, a tip woman to woman here. Do not be offended. Do not take it personally. He loves you really but being put back into that culture is a difficult thing to do when you so obviously are not what "his people" expect him to be with. You might need a hug of reassurance but he won't be able to give it you. You might want him to speak out against every guy leering or following you but he can't. You may want him to validate you to any friends of his you meet (if he has connections there) but he won't be able to in that moment. I am sure he will do the best he can but consider how he feels in this situation. It's a pretty good trial on the strength of understanding though! It certainly opened my eyes. This may not be an issue at all, but be aware that this might be if this is your first time in India with him.
my best advice: get some Indian clothes straight away and wear them. I wore them on my last two days and finally no one stared at me :-). This is good especially when you're by yourself.
You will still get stared at when you're with him, but people won't bother you.
I spent a long weekend with Indian friends in Kerala and had a blast :-)
My experience was a bit different :-).
People stared but I didn't feel unsafe. I didn't go out by myself in the dark but went on the bus into town by myself.
I went to Mc Donalds to use the toilets and they always had toilet paper. They still smelled disgusting and were dirty, but they existed.
Nothing was stolen from me, but I am a cautious person. A shoulder bag with zip is useful.
The advice to not be naive is a good one. Just be safety conscious. Most people don't want to hurt you but things are just... different...
feel free to check out my blog (archive) to read about my experiences :-)
I was eating mostly raw for 6 months in India. Its very easy to find lots of fruit, but its often not great quality, though it depends where you go. Its good to ask a local friend how much things should cost, but with food they generally don't try to rip you off too badly. If you want nice beaches in India I highly recommend heading to the Andaman Islands, its paradise! The mainland beaches tend to be a bit dirty and overcrowded... I've spent a couple of years altogether over there traveling all round, so let me know if you want any other general travel advice for India :) .
Just curious as you are a man, did you experience the staring also? I only went to two small tourist places and otherwise stayed in family homes and small rural villages. I never saw very many western men so I do not know if what I wrote above applies to you also. I would be curious to know!
Yeah, plenty of staring in any non-touristy places. I think to them its not really that rude or anything, they normally just keep staring even if you stare back at them haha. I got used to it pretty fast, but I know it can sometimes be a bit intimidating for women...
Yeah, I know it's not intended to be rude, but it is unnerving if you're not used to it.
As a woman I was forever grateful to have my husband with me, especially one who speaks Hindi. The kinds of comments that these men say to western women on the street would make your skin crawl if you knew the language. I would hate to think of how they would act if I had been a tourist on my own.
Glad to know men can do well there!
Thank you! Maybe I will go there first...been working my butt off and need a place to chill while I wait for boyfriend to wrap up his work.
Nah, I'm sure it's great but the fruit in Nepal is out of this world. Once you get past some social awkwardness it's amazing with limitless opportunities for adventure and living a thriving fruity lifestyle.
Completely different experience, depends what you'll looking for I guess...