I kissed a meat eater passionately! what should I do?

Ok, so I am a regular forum member but have created a separate profile for privacy as I have some ex-boyfriends on tthis site.

If you know who I am, shut it ;) LOL.

Ok, so here's the deal, I'm a STRICT ethical vegan, went vegan overnight years ago, and am almost fully raw 811, 99%. I have always sworn I would NEVER EVER date a non-vegetarian, and a non-vegan. I have for the past few years said no to every single non-vegan and dated men from far away so I could be with an 811-er. I also always REFUSED to kiss a meat eater.

Something flipped. I met a guy and the chemistry is intense. I'm talking all over all round chemistry. Strong spiritual connection, strong intellectual, strong physical etc. etc. etc. I kissed him, and could even taste meat in his mouth, but literally didn't care. I must REITERATE, THIS IS NOT ME AT ALL!! I have NO idea what is happening.

What is up with me? I always swore I would put it in the prenup that if a guy eats a sliver of meat I will leave him...but I'm ACTUALLY thinking I MIGHT be with this guy long term??! But I am trying to think totally logically. He doesn't want to be fully vegetarian. When the honeymoon phase is over, him eating meat will freak me out, and what bout the kid(s)???! Oh, and the ethical issues, why would someone kill and hurt an animal for something as trivial as their taste buds? That;s mean!

Ok, we've only known each ohter for a week, and we are talking long term... (# of kids etc.). I have a strange feelings about him, like nothing I've experienced before, ever. Just beyond this realm, beyond the realm of love or sex, the realm of Unconditional Beingness.

Do I:

talk to him and say, "sorry, have to be fully vegan"?? If not, let's end it here. I am unsure if this is best as he isn't even educated about it.
Do I show him PETA videos? What do I do to educate him on veganism? Buy him books? Is it too early to start doing so? How do I do it so I don't look like I"m trying to convert him?
Am I leading him on by not telling him right away I want a vegan but slowly intro-ing it to him??
Do I just take it real slow and be mostly friends and slowly intro him to why I went vegan and see his reaction. Is this misleading him?
other options??!

Obviously I REALLY REALLY like this guy! Ideas please?

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Permalink Reply by David on January 30, 2010 at 3:10pm

love him. if veganism is the healthiest and most ethical EVERYBODY will come along.

Permalink Reply by Green Love on January 30, 2010 at 3:24pm

what do u mean David? Obviously veganism is the healthiest and most ethical...but everybody isn't along?

Permalink Reply by Greg Allen on January 31, 2010 at 10:20am

Yeh, but some of us are slow. My wife quietly became vegetarian about 6 years ago after we had been married for 12 years. About a year later, without her pressuring me at all, I gave up fishing. Later, after she plied me with her great vegan cooking for a few years, I started reading up on veganism and eventually suggested to her that we all, including our 2 kids, become vegans. She agreed it was a good idea. About a year after that I became raw. So plans are great, but often as not, life just kind of finds its own way. Living intimately with someone year after year , who's vegetarian, is a VERY convincing argument for ethical and healthy eating so he just might see the light.

Permalink Reply by David on January 31, 2010 at 4:38pm

but if it is truly the way the light, everyone will get it, right?

Permalink Reply by Green Love on February 1, 2010 at 3:44am

don't a lot want to stay in darkness though?

Permalink Reply by DURIANRIDER on January 30, 2010 at 3:13pm

we will do anything to get love. raid countries, be honest, lie, steal, give, cheat, be fair..anything..

personally for me if someone's heart isnt open to the pain that animal products create for us, the animals and the planet then im not interested when it comes to intimacy.

ive had my share of relationships that were based purely on hormonal satisfaction and in between that we pretended it was love. these relationships can just lead to bitter and twisted views of the opposite sex. however they always leave a sense of quiet desperation in our heart that maybe the next person will understand me..SO HOW ABOUT WE UNDERSTAND OURSELVES, UNDERSTAND WHAT WE NEED AND THEN GO ATTRACT THAT PERSON INTO OUR LIVES BY BECOMING THAT PERSON OURSELVES..anyone can obtain a relationship with anyone, but to sustain it cos its worth sustaining is another story.

so many vegan/ raw vegan fish in the datorade sea. become what you want to attract and get busy!

worked for me! works for everyone, everytime!

who wants to be with someone thats wishing you were someone else...
who wants to be with someone and wishing they were someone else...

if you want to eat sweet and juicy, why eat pizza?

Permalink Reply by Green Love on January 30, 2010 at 3:15pm

wow, I am what I want to attract haha, and have only dated 811-ers for the last 4 years, that committed. I have no idea what is going on. I can't stand when people's hearts aren't open...but do I SHOW him factory farming videos? what do I do??

Permalink Reply by Wild Light on January 30, 2010 at 3:23pm

Hey nobody else can make the decision for you. You gotta kinda go with your heart/gut and see where the road takes you. Trust yourself :) Just think to yourself, is this person going to be good for me long term? Is he a constructive or destructive person in his own life? I love the following saying:

"How can man be possessed of kindness who, to increase his own flesh, eats the flesh of other creatures. As those possess no property who do not take care of it, so those possess no kindness who feed on flesh." "Like the (murderous) mind of him who carries a weapon (in his hand), the mind of him who feasts with pleasure on the body of another (creature), has no regard for goodness."
"Man did not weave the web of life: he is merely a strand in it. Whatever he does to the web, he does to himself. To harm the earth is to heap contempt on its creator." - Red Indian Chief (1854)

So yeh if it's long term you just gotta think about what you want for your life. I personally only want people with good hearts in my life, because they'll in the end either treat me properly or not, depending on their outlook in life. If he's feeling s*** cause he's not looking after himself, the relationship is gonna go downhill - trust me I was in a 5 year relationship and it's really not good if someone is destructive.

Good luck and hope things work out :)

Permalink Reply by Green Love on January 30, 2010 at 3:26pm

and what if your heart/gut/spirit is telling you to just BE and trust?

Permalink Reply by Wild Light on January 30, 2010 at 3:31pm

Nobody can make a better decision than you about your life. The big problem I feel is that people are always taking other people's advice. I'm happiest whenever I tell people to go shove it, and follow my own path. It's a great adventure - sure it's not always going to be great, but without the bitter the sweet wouldn't be as sweet. You build up much more experience and knowledge by bumping your head and just living your life the way you want. Freedom is just taking the risk and not being scared of the pain. You don't stop exercising because it's painful - so why stop living life? Be a lion and rooooooooaaaaaaarrrrrrr!!!!!!!!! :P

Permalink Reply by Green Love on January 30, 2010 at 3:29pm

butmaybe he'll become vegan? I was a meat eater too once!

Permalink Reply by Green Love on January 30, 2010 at 3:38pm

EXACTLY!! SO WHAT DO i DO from the options above in my discussion? Do I straight up tell him, "no way?" or do I just be friends and intro him to vegans tuff?