Hey... I hope I am asking this in the right place because never have I met a community in the world that has as much understanding for other's feelings, whether human or not.
I am leaving for college this fall.. two thousand miles away. I've had a cat that I was with since I was four years old.. all my childhood since I ever remember. Probably the only living thing on the planet that I ever loved so much. Probably the only living thing that ever made me so happy and enjoy life as it is today.
I've been bullied severely most of my life by all the people I've known. Whether it's my family, "friends", teachers, or acquaintances. Everybody. My cat Tiger has always been the living being there for me. He is slightly deformed but I will still love him no matter what.
After I leave... the house is empty of everything, only my mother left, and he's left there without his best friend for 14 years to die in isolation and boredom for the last years of his life. It's a large empty, blank house that he hardly is allowed to go outside of. Everyone I've tried to talk to don't seem to care, they couldn't care less if he just died in pain any day.
I probably never cried this much in my entire life, despite all the misery I went through socially all throughout my life. It almost feels like no one is left in the world without him.
Things come and go. It is cyclical, as is life and death. The way to have love live forever, is to love them eternally. Unconditional love. "Buildings burn... people die... but real love is forever." You will feel this way about something else in your life, eventually. Such is life.
That's sad and I'm sorry...is there no way you could take your cat with you or stay with your cat? It is very difficult to leave a friend behind, especially one so dependent on you...I imagine it would be very tough to do.
Agree w Mera, find a way to take him with you!! Where theres a will theres a way. Worst case, you can visit often (if possible) and you will be quite busy in College, not to say you wont miss your best bud, but you will be overwhelmed with work (if you actually try hard in college) that you will have your mind elsewhere. Ps in Uni bullying is usually not an issue (especially if you find good likeminded people. Its more of an idea sharing place among individuals (unless you hang out with the idiots of the college world, where your judged by your beer pong and bong rip skills).
you will find the answers you seek here, eli:
there are many solutions, but only a few appropriate ones.
One thought that always helps me in similar cases: You are always with yourself! Sooner or later, you will lose everything in life, every friend, every relative and every material belongings – but you will always have yourSELF! It's kind of cruel, but it's also kind of relieving.
And another thing: Always be thankful for the experiences you gained, the friendships you had, and the Love you shared.
I know there's not much anyone can say to help come over a loss, but you have to let go – many times in your life. You already made an important step in letting go: mourning and crying!
I lost my father a year ago and my brother 2 months ago, so trust me, I feel you!
Thanks Chrishan.. I hope your father and brother rest happily in peace.
I could let go - even though it is something I cannot imagine doing soon. But not at the fact I'm leaving him to spend so much trauma and misery without his best friend.
Smuggle him with you! If your college doesn't allow cats... be sneaky. >_> It's the best possible solution imo. You'll be really happy that way. :) Best of luck, Eli
That sounds like a wonderful idea.. but the dorm I'll be in is very small. He can't go outside on his own because he is very old. I'm the one who usually goes outside with him, for him it's one of the very few joys he has left.
I feel your pain. My boy is my best friend in the world too. He has been with me every step of the way for the last 10 years.
I wish I lived close to you. I would foster Tiger for you.
Can you give a ball park of where you will study and or if you will fly or drive?
In the mean time...here is something for your melancholy...
One of my favorite songs, thanks PK.
I will be studying at UC Berkeley this year, which is quite far from here (WA) so I'd have to fly.