Just want to know how many of you here are attached to someone who is also leading the same lifestyle as you and how that affects your relationship? It seems pretty damn hard to find someone who is on the same journey as me or at least wants to jump on the wagon for a ride...I guess i'm just wondering if any of you here are going through the same frustrations and how are you overcoming them...
- lonely banana lover
I am spending my time with someone who went vegan because of me (earthlings helped haha :P) and just talking a lot about animals and health really made him want to go vegan too :D so proud of him for that...
For me it is also hard to really be with someone who is eating meat and/or dairy, simply because it is such a big thing in life, you know? If someone doesn't understand why eating these things is completely insane... it's very hard for me to relate to them, sure we can have other things in common, but this is such a big thing. And on the physical side, I don't really enjoy kissing someone that just eat a steak... BRRRR.
I won't date a non-vegan "he can convert" but he would have to! like ASAP
that's the thing though - some people won't change, they like their selfish ways. plus, you don't want to force veganism on anyone, it has to come within, otherwise, they'll never get it. its not only about the eating.
I am not single been married a long time. But if you are looking for a vegan there are lots of sites. All the people who think they can change a meat eater it usually does not happen. If you want kids do not think a meat eater will change. Unless you live in a really crappy small town there are lots of vegetarian and vegans. Also all you people in your 20s and younger please do not settle and never compromise your beliefs. too many woman give up too much in relationships. Also if you are a new vegan or LFRV you will see how your views change over 10 to 30 years. Most vegans and vegetarians I know said if they could go back they would only date vegans or vegetarians.
you nailed it on the head, Gia. awesome post and i'm glad more people are same minded and i hope those young girls take note. i'm in my 30's so lessons learned, but more to come for sure. stay your grounds and stick to what you know is right and veganism, that is the way to go for the future of us as human species. i think that is the next evolution from the stone age habits of killing and eating flesh.
Yeah, I'm not in my twenty's and don't look my age at all.. haha... I would have thought the same at your age as well.. But you change as the years go by.. I can see how people on the other side think were nuts.. just looking at diet as a big deal in a mate. But it is important. I have been on the Health & Raw journey a long time and this is how I feel... :) The Health of my future Partner, children, pets... ME! Is Important.. There is no life without it. haha.. I could ramble on & on...
well you don't have to marry someone to want to share the same ideology. so its not only about our health, which is very important, but also what has happened to our cousins in fur and feather. just watching the documentary "Earthlings" should be enough to understand the horror behind the meat and diary industry. i think that's much more important than anything else, then we need to consider the environment and mother nature. it takes so much grain and water to sustain these animals to produce the meat, cheese and milk. so the lifestyle makes a difference when you are with the person you want to share every day together. so i guess its how you look at things - are you passionate about all of the above? if you are, then the guy next to you needs to be as supportive and into it as you are. then, its all fun together :-)
thanks! great reply! :)
I was married to a carnivore/omnivore guy for 10 years. When I started going fruitarian, he would say he supported me and even say he understood but then he would keep asking me if I wanted to go out to dinner, have some of his food and not support me to his family. It was extremely difficult. I ended up leaving him, not just for that because after doing a stretch of 5 months (before leaving), I became very clear about everything that was toxic in our marriage and not just the food. I am single now and sort of looking around for a lifetime companion but I'm a little skittish about finding someone that doesn't eat the way I do. I live with my son and roommate right now and they just don't get it. We can't win them over; only they can come to terms with their food and health. We just have to support each other and do what's responsible for ourselves. Thanks for this question...great one!
That's very strong of you to know who you are as well as what does - as well as what doesn't - do you good Peggy. :)
Thank you Athena!