I'm feeling really emotional lately. I ate some cooked food the day before yesterday. Is it possible that only a sandwich would cause me to detox? I got in a fight with my boyfriend and havent been speaking to him since yesterday. I've just been crying all day! Still stuffing bananas down my throat like mad though :) making sure I get my carbs. Is this normal?
Hey - you've got in fight with your boyfriend, remember ? This shouldn't be relevant, unless he is your boyfriend, and theoretically, at least, you care about him !
I think this is the main cause. However, less sleep, less water, less sugar can definitely make things worse. Maybe miss him ? Food is satisfying a physiological need, not an emotional one. Fruit is good for your body, yes, have it, instead of other items, but please, first try to figure out why you are upset. What is it you want and it's not reality yet ?
Well I got in a fight with him for a stupid reason. I was getting really frustrated with him for not listening to what I was trying to say so I yelled at him and stormed out. Since I started raw about 3 weeks ago nothing has been bothering me but a day after I eat a sandwich I'm feeling like my fuse is shorter. It bothers me that we are fighting but I dont want to be the one to reconcile things because I'm mad at him and he himself is refusing to say anything so we're still shakey right now
I also feel like I'm on the verge of a breakdown . Just very emotionally unstable right now
Assuming you want this relationship long term...
Sometimes, in long term friendships and relationships, there does not have to be an Im sorry or drawn out reconciliations and talk. In fact, guys hate the whole "honey we need to talk thing."
Sometimes, all we need to do is pretend it did not happen and get on with the business of living. If he is at home, share dinner together like normal.
If he is not at home, text him something, perhaps something funny and enticing.
Hey PK, I agree with you. In this case I've drawn it out too long to be able to just pretend nothing happened. He would probably think I'm mental if I just pretended nothing happened. I also feel like I was disrespected (he doesnt see it that way) so I dont want to just drop it. I want for him to apologize, but he doesnt think he needs to. Quite a pickle eh?
I'm sure to keep this forever and never forget it! Thank you so much, PK!
Peace : )
I am not sure of the dietary status of your boyfriend.
But yes, going raw and vegan from a SAD and or animal based background can cause both physical and emotional detox.
It also changes the new vegan from the inside out, which in turn changes how you may view and respond to the world.
And this can translate into changes in relationship dynamics which in some cases bring some relationships to an end. A few of our members have had to leave non veg relationships behind.
If you love him, and he is a great guy, and hopefully veg too, hopefully this is just a small hiccup and as they say, what do they say about things making us stronger?
Hopefully, whatever happens, even painful, will make you stronger, and whatever you lose, you will gain something better in return, even if it is just wisdom.
I'm not going straight from SAD, I went from being mostly veg to eating meat for about a week then to raw gourmet for about 2 weeks, then to hcrv for 2 weeks, had some cooked food here and there the past week or so but about 5 weeks ago is when I went raw.
I love him very much and dont want it to end. He isnt veg though. He eats LOTS of meat and that bothers me a bit. I fear that some of our tremendous differences might tare us apart. I dont want them to, I know I'm attached.
I hope today is a better day and things are and or will go smoother both in the emotions and in the relationship.
If it works out this time, perhaps live low key for a few months and get your own habits and health under control without rocking the boat to much or insisting that he follow along.
You might get lucky and he will naturally get interested in what you are doing.
If not, six months down the line, you can reevaluate if this is healthy for the two of your or not. We humans are capable of loving deeply many if not all people via agape love and metta. But we do not always stay in committed relationships and or marry those we love.
At some point in time, in spite of love, the two of you may have to decide what is ultimately healthy for both of you. If that means staying, stay, but if no, be honest with each other.
That does not mean things have to go down in a blaze of glory or a fight either:D It might just mean shaking hands and living as friends.
Here is an interesting discussion in the single mingle group: vegansexual
@Freshtival and Vik,
This was one such discussion of several that have happened here @BaD:
By Jack Nowhere to hide
are you pissed you ate the sandwhich?
if you get yourself really down about a little "cheat" i find from personal experience it shortens my temper by a ton
if i just let it go im much better
haha no! Definitely not. I had cheated a few times before that but this last little slip up made me realize I wanted to be fully raw. I was actually happy it happened and totally psyched to go all the way. The emotions have been coming out of nowhere