Being HCRV, changes with sex.
Other than the feeling absolutely amazing and soft, I've found that even when aroused I'm not generally "ready" for sex as I used to be. (Does this have anything to do with the lessening of mucus?) I had unknowingly done HCRV for about five years, ages ago and have recently been getting reacquainted with the lifestyle with renewed knowledge and permanency. As I didn't have a sexual partner in my past HCRV days, I'm unsure what is normal and if this is normal. Perhaps it's a transitional thing.
(I'm eating plenty, drinking plenty.)
So any experiences or changes, anything to be shared is welcome!
More foreplay needed. Teach him how to arouse you even more and for even longer, and you will have no problems at all with being *ready* for him. It may sound weird coming from a guy... but trust me on this one.
Thanks, but I can assure you that isn't the issue. At this point I'm just going to assume my body just isn't thinking about that in the first place as I'm just recently HCRV again so it's working on other things. We'll see.
I am curious about libido changes & everything in bed when following this lifestyle, too.
I've found exactly the opposite to be true. Just about anything will turn me on. More foreplay is never a bad thing, though; and on less successful occasions that's been the issue for me. Try giving that a shot. When you say drinking plenty, how much is that exactly?
I've got no problem getting turned on, and foreplay is much had. It's simply my body. Um, about three gallons perhaps? I'm not quite sure, I don't really log it. I'd say three gallons or more. I do drink a lot.
I'm mightily impressed if you're drinking 3 gallons - that's 11 liters! If water and foreplay aren't issues, then yeah, maybe your body's just doing its own thing right now.
As it should!
Are you with a long-term partner? I personally found it easier to be lubricated in my days of fun, short-term flings than when I settled into marital bliss with my husband (though all was fine when we first dated). It's nothing personal, there was just more spontaneity and lust initially. Now it takes effort getting in the mood is all, which I'd say is very normal. If your head's not in the game as easily, it could be purely psychological as opposed to physical.
And if all else fails... coconut oil can help. =)
I am with a long-term partner. Six years, and it's actually the only person I've been with. I'm really leaning towards my body dealing with other things, but if it continues, perhaps you're right. I have no problem getting in the mood, and my partner knows my body well. There could be something underlying going on.
I discovered that hormones played a much bigger role than I ever imagined. How did I discover this? When I went on the Pill, I completely lost my libido. When I was pregnant, my libido increased. When I breastfeed, depending on the baby's age, my libido was either completely gone, or much diminished. During my cycle, my libido is highest right after I ovulate and up until my period comes. Soooooo... at least for me, hormones make a huge difference.
Have you lost weight? Has your period gone away? These might be indicators that you are under-eating and your body lacks enough fat to maintain a hormone balance.
As for Michael Arnstein, he claims to have a body fat of 3% during his sport season. He seems to be a pretty busy guy, too, with his full-time job and running 16 miles a day and three kids. Durian Rider, on the other hand, keeps his body fat up around 6-8%, if I remember, and has a high level of testosterone, according to his blood tests. And he doesn't have kids, and has a more flexible job, so perhaps more time and energy and opportunity for sex?
I think there can be a variety of factors, but fat levels and hormones should not be overlooked.
Yeah, I think hormones play a huge role as well. My libido, too, is usually highest around and after ovulation. Something I find totally fascinating is that my boyfriend can tell when when I'm ovulating by how his body responds to mine. There's no way he's somehow unconsciously keeping track of dates or monitoring anything; he's completely oblivious. He's always spot on, though.
I hope it will get better for you. Breastfeeding can definitely impact your libido. It's hard when you have young kids, too. They take so much out of you. For me, having my now almost 2 year old made me feel less sexy.....like the mother role took over & it was harder to find the sex goddess in myself. LOL. It gets better over time, but we also need to try to do things to make ourselves feel attractive and not lose ourselves when being parents. That may not be an issue for you, but it certainly is for me.