Hello 30BAD community,
I am living in a home stay during my study abroad semester in Spain. My house mom cooks me vegan food, but uses tons of oil in everything. I am buying lots of fruits and veggies and trying to fill up on those as much as possible so I don't eat as much of her oily food, but I feel really bad wasting all the stuff she makes, especially since she serves my food for me before I even sit down for dinner. It horrifies me to be eating so much oil and white carbs(rice, bread, pasta).
Do you think I should talk to her? I am just afraid of being high maintenance, already every Spanish person thinks I am very bizarre because I don't eat animal products. I only have six more weeks until the program is over. But six weeks seems so long.
Any advice, suggestions, thoughts would be most appreciated...
Tell her you're trying to watch your fat intake and you'll be eating bananas for dinner and only bananas for the next six weeks.
Are you 100% raw usually?
como así por una dolencia, el doctor dijo que tengo que comer esta dieta, etc that should shut them up haha
I think you have to ask yourself whether you wish to eat whatever you are expected to or if you would prefer to eat in a way that will allow you to achieve true health and radiance and reach your full potential.
If the answer is that you would prefer the latter, then you should ask yourself whether you can afford all fruit (and greens) you need to eat.
If the answer is yes, then you should offer your house mom a big smile and thank her for her concern and for all the time and effort she has been devoting to you and say you deeply appreciate her kind gesture, but that from this moment on you would prefer to take care of your own food, and that you would prefer if she didn't cook for you.
If she refuses and insists on continuing to cook for you, don't give up in the first try! Continue to insist that you would prefer her not to cook for you, while increasingly expressing your gratitude, without however being insincere. Make her feel moved by how much you appreciate her intentions; make her feel she is an important person to you, but that what she is doing does not achieve her intentions. Make her feel you know she has good intentions and is very concerned with you and your health and your diet and because of that - not despite! - she must stop cooking for you because it goes against her very intentions.
If everything else fails, politely and calmly declare that you will no longer be eating her food from now on. She will probably stop cooking for you after she realizes you haven't eaten her food for a few days. She may be quite bothered with that, but continue to greet to her with a smile every time you meet her. Always be caring and loving and grateful and kind towards her, even if she doesn't act in the same way towards you.
If you can, you may try giving her a gift; or, if you feel she wishes to do something for you, you may try to indirectly point out something that you would like and that you feel she is capable of doing.
Always remember that Love is the answer. If you speak and act in a loving, sincere and understanding way, you will touch the heart of all of those that cross your path and you will change their lives forever. You can say anything that needs to be said; you merely need to say it in a respectful and understanding manner.
I trust you can achieve anything you desire to achieve. You are a radiant star that shines brightly in the skies, illuminating all those you come across. Live your live fully as what you really are, not as a dim shadow of your being. Be yourself! Live it and you'll be it! You can overcome all your hurdles and become whatever you desire to become. You have the strength and the wisdom within you to overcome your difficulties.
We are all at your side. You can always count on us for anything you need. If you are having misunderstandings with your house mom and you wish to talk about it I am willing to listen and do whatever I can to try to help.
I wish you a great stay in Spain with lots of great moments and great fruit! And I wish you and your house mom can get along very well!
Hi Camille ;) Oh, I can understand you!
If I had to decide, I would talk to her and tell her that you would be very happy if she could just offer you fruits instead of the cooked meals (or you could say that you have some issues with digestion..so raw foods are best for you ;)) Maybe it is really no problem for your house mum and she doesn't have to spend so much time in the kitchen :D
Thank you everyone for the advice : )