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Being realistic, idealism, what is all of this worth, etc....

Do you ever get tired of having the same discussion over and over and over again?  I've been vegan for a year now, and i've had probably hundreds of discussions about veganism for ethics and health... it's generally the same arguments from different people.  Yesterday the conversation came up twice with two different people... i was accused of being "idealistic" both times.  One person said it's too extreme and i have to meet people half way if i want to be effective.  The other person said that i'm never going to make any difference in the world any way.   He also said the world has so many problems and is so f*** up and so out of balance that no matter how much we "fix" it's never going to be a good world (very pessimistic, i know). 


I'm realistic. (Therefore) I'm cynical.  But I enjoy living my life optimistically.  So even though it's more realistic to think that what I'm doing won't make any significant change in the world, I like to hold on to that hope that I am doing something good, because I'm happier that way.  I feel good about myself living that way.  So call me selfish, but at least I'm trying, no? 

He goes on to point out that everything I'm wearing, the shampoo i use, the books I read, caused someone somewhere to suffer.  This may be true.  By living in society I will always indirectly be causing some sort of pain.  So my options are: 1. die.  2. accept the fact that the world generally sucks, and be a part of that suckiness by doing nothing about it.  3.  accept the fact that the world generally sucks, but also recognize that there is beauty in it to fight for, and fight for it...

option 3 may be futile, it may be unrealistic, it may be naiive, it may sound like some fairytale book you read.  But I guess for me in the end it all boils down to what kind of person I want to be.  I don't want to be like most other people, because what most other people are doing obviously isn't working (hence the "suckiness" of the world).  Honestly how many people can say they have made a significant difference in someone's life for the better?    See, even if all i do is help one person, or prevent one animal from being tortured, at least i helped one person, at least i saved one animal!  even if all other problems still exist, a positive change is a positive change, no matter how small.  i mean if you want to go THAT far, in the spectrum of the universe we mean virtually nothing, and we know virtually nothing.  All we really know is what we have, what we see, what we do, how we live our lives... why wouldn't you want to make the best of that? 

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I totally agree with your thoughts and opinions. I have to do my best, or I won't be able to live with myself. I don't know from where all the negativity and ignorance in people is coming... But I think if so much is screwed in the world, isn't it even more important that every individual actually do what he/she can to make it better?

And even if it doesn't make it much better for anyone else, you're creating a more beautiful world for yourself and will sooner or later inspire people to do the same. <3

And even if it doesn't make it much better for anyone else, you're creating a more beautiful world for yourself and will sooner or later inspire people to do the same. <3


:)  exactly ... if NOTHING else, let's make ourselves happy.  and what better way to do that than to be our best self? 

the world would be great if everyone worked on themselves. 

people made all the problems, so if people are fixed, problems should go away. 


oh yeah. a party seems like a great way to look at it! and the best part is i think, is that the fixing would be a one time thing, a long one time thing, but still a one time thing. and then the maintaining

but (generally) people keep blaming others instead of examining themselves for what needs fixin. always pointing the finger "you did this" and "he does that". throwing stones. it distracts us from dealing with our own sh&t.

I cant wait for the big party after all is forgiven!

ha!! party animals all of you!


in fiendship,


lol pradtf, you party animal yourself, did you mean to write "fiendship" or did that freudian slip just slip you by? :)


take a look here and see the gradual and sordid transformation:

30 bahahas a day


i like those definitions you found!!!!

and appreciate your generous commentary too!


recluse that i am, to party i refuse!

so no slip i'm afreud.


in fiendship,



hm, i have to think about this one.  i don't think being cynical and being pessimistic are the same things... being pessimistic i would agree is definitely not realistic.  being cynical is more just recognizing bad things that happen.  but perhaps being cynical is only a result of being pessimistic, which in that case is not realistic.   i guess, being realistic is a faulty term in itself. 

let's just say i think i see what's in front of me, good and bad, and i want to fight the bad to bring out the good... lol.

and i didnt mean to tell you that you were wrong about anything either with my long post. you actually seem very open minded to whats real which is great for being happy!

i like this way : )      let love reign     drop the anger and hate (<not directed at Jenni, but at general world population)

Hey Xenia, you're not giving off bad vibes!!  The intensity is great! 

And I like your way of thinking.  Very positive and it shows in your picture :)

xxx Keep on being unique, keep on being you, keep on creating your own positive, peaceful, beautiful reality... Cause it just grows and grows and grows and expands... like ripples in water...

 That sounds beautifully put advice, I'll take it myself.



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